To the Wife Traumatized by Married Sex
Just because sex happens within marriage doesn’t always mean it’s good. God designed sex to be a beautiful life-giving nurturing experience between husband and wife.…
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4 Keys to Re-Connecting with your Spouse
Are you tired of living more as roommates instead of as loving husband and wife? You CAN connect again! Learn more about the 4 Facets of Intimacy, and how you can overcome the obstacles in each area to connect with your spouse in the deepest way possible.
Fight FOR Your Marriage – Successfully
Your marriage is under attack! And the enemy of your marriage is not your spouse. Learn how to identify the REAL enemy of your marriage, and what it takes to defeat him. Join with your spouse in fighting for the marriage God wants for you.
New Year, New Marriage
Written as a letter to Dear Wife at the beginning of the year, the messages here are applicable any time and for both spouses. Learn how to identify the destructive patterns in your relationship and take the steps to move forward into the New Marriage God has for you.
Freedom From Pornography
In modern culture pornography is an extremely common marriage destroyer. If you are struggling to break free from pornography and want to keep this thief from damaging your marriage, this Guide will help you understand the important steps toward freedom.
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Your way of communicating with your spouse is a product of many things. Your communication style has both strengths and challenges. Knowing your communication style will help take your communication to the next level.
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When Your Spouse Has Sexual Baggage
It’s a rare person, if anyone, who comes to marriage without sexual “stuff.” You did. And so did your spouse. Last time we talked about…
Nine Possible Reasons Your Spouse Doesn’t Want to Sleep With You
Sex and intimacy (they are related, but not the same!) is a top area of conflict in many marriages. Trying to demand sex from your…
How to Deal with Masturbation and Pornography as a Christian
How do you handle the solo sexual stuff? How do you deal with masturbation and pornography as a Christian? I’m writing about this because you…
What To Do When Your Husband Doesn’t Want To Have Sex With You
The stereotype of a man pressuring his wife for sex does not apply to every relationship: there are many women who experience just the opposite.…
What To Do When Your Wife Doesn’t Want To Have Sex With You
I’ve heard from husbands of my patients, blog readers, radio listeners, and others about how frustrated and even angry a man can become when repeatedly…
9 Characteristics of a Healthy Sexual Relationship for a Christian
Husband wants sex, but wife resists. Wife can’t understand why husband hasn’t asked for sex in some time. Wife feel pressured to give husband sex…
The Four Facets of Intimacy in Marriage
Intimacy in marriage. Men often spell it S-E-X. Women frequently spell it T-A-L-K. It’s something married couples usually take for granted at the beginning of…
Enjoying Sex After Menopause
Some men complain their wives lose interest in intimacy around the time of menopause. Some women complain they can’t enjoy sex the way they used…
What Does The Bible Say To A Man Whose Wife Doesn’t Want Sex
You can struggle greatly when your wife does not or cannot respond to you sexually. It’s a little ironic: here I am a woman, talking…
What To Do When Your Husband Wants Sex and You Don’t
I’m going to assume for a moment that you have a genuinely good man for a husband, not perfect, but one who truly wants to…
10 Things You Can (and Can’t) Expect In A Good Marriage
With all the destructive marriages out there, is it any wonder many young people are having second thoughts about getting married at all? Is “happily…
Five Ways to Pray About Your Troubled Marriage
Every marriage faces challenges. And praying is the best thing you can do. God loves to do miracles! He is well able to restore, heal,…
How to Fight FOR Your Marriage Not AGAINST Your Spouse
Your marriage is important. It means everything to you. Anything that important requires investment of time and energy. But the harder you try, the worse…
How to Know if you are Released from your Marriage
Jesus said that even though it was not God’s original design for marriage, divorce is “allowed” in some circumstances “because of the hardness of your…
To the Woman Feeling Rejected By Her Husband
You’re a woman feeling rejected. Part of you believes it shouldn’t bother you so much, but it does. You thought things would be different being…
Submission in Christian Marriage
Hear the words “submission” and “marriage” in the same sentence and you may feel something visceral rise up in your soul. You might respond, “My…
When Your Marriage Fails Anyway
Sometimes all you’ve got is not enough. Sometimes even God can’t fix it. Sometimes all your tears and work and prayers and love fall flat…
Your Spouse is Emotionally Cheating: 5 Things to Do
It might seem simpler, though even more devastating, to walk in and find your spouse in bed with someone else. Emotional cheating is squishier. You…
If Your Wife Does Not Respect You
Men thrive on respect. It’s right there at the top of a man’s emotional needs. If your wife does not respect you, you probably feels…
What The Bible Says To A Woman Who Feels Unloved By Her Husband
Sometimes I feel like I just want to run away. He keeps me around for convenience, appearance, and sex, and I just can’t do it…
2 Questions to Help You Decide If Your Marriage Is Too Destructive To Save
If you’re wrestling with a painful or destructive marriage, you know all too well the frustration, tears, and loneliness involved. You know the feelings of…
When You Are Disappointed in Your Marriage
You expect certain things of your spouse. But sometimes you want more. You believe your spouse loves you, but it’s not enough. You crave something…
10 Things You Can (and Can’t) Expect In A Good Marriage
With all the destructive marriages out there, is it any wonder many young people are having second thoughts about getting married at all? Is “happily…
21 Things to Do Together As a Married Couple
When you were dating, you probably had no difficulty coming up with interesting things to do with your sweetheart. Now that you’ve been married for…
How to Make Christ the Foundation of Your Marriage
It sounds good. You know you “should” do it. “Make Christ the foundation of your marriage.” But what does that look like? How do you…
Why Marriage Is So Hard
Sometime after the preacher pronounces you man and wife the unwelcome truth hits you; marriage is hard! That realization may come within hours or it…
When Your Spouse is Not a Christian
You cry. You pray. You wonder how long you can hold on. Guilt and loneliness may seem your constant companions. You look at other Christian…
5 Things You Should Believe About Marriage
Recently I talked about the 3 biggest false beliefs people hold on to when it comes to marriage. What you believe about marriage will affect…
The 3 Biggest False Beliefs About Marriage
Is your marriage turning out like you thought it would? Probably not. What you believed about marriage before saying “I Do” has been seriously altered…
10 Ways to Show Respect to Your Spouse
A marriage without respect will not thrive. But sometimes it’s hard to know how to show respect to your spouse. Where respect falls in the…
How to Have a Spiritual Conversation with Your Spouse
You know you need God in your marriage for it to grow and remain strong and healthy. But you may feel as though you and…
Forgiveness in Marriage: How to Do it Well
Your spouse has hurt you. Guaranteed. If you haven’t been hurt by your spouse, you either got married five minutes ago (and you’re not reading…
How to Bring God Into Your Marriage Bedroom
God invented marriage, God invented sex, and He called them “good”. The logical part of your left brain may believe that. But when things are…
Why an Invitation is the Better Door to Intimacy
If you’re married and reading this, it’s likely you want greater intimacy with your spouse. And for many people that becomes frustrating. The closeness you…
Translation Aids for Man-Speak and Woman-Speak
Perhaps Rosetta Stone, the language learning/translation software, should develop a program to provide translation aids between men and women. Listening to some husbands and wives…
Say This, Not That: Healthy Communication Examples for Marriage
Communication can be difficult. You and your spouse seem to speak different languages. Attempts at talking seem to end up in a fight or in…
The Key to Solving Communication Problems in Your Marriage
If your attempts at communicating with your spouse leave you frustrated, angry, and feeling even more distant, you’re not alone. In our marriage survey, 70%…
The Most Important Organ in Communication
You hear communication and you may think “talk”. Which means using your mouth. But that’s not the most important organ in communication with your spouse…
When Your Spouse Will Not Communicate: 5 Things to Do
Communication is the fuel relationships need to thrive. When you first got together you couldn’t stop talking. But now you may feel like you’re hammering…
Avoid these 8 Mistakes in Communicating with your Spouse
“Honey, we need to talk.” How does that work out for you? Do you end up in a screaming match? Does one of you clam…
HOLD the Communication! Do These Things First
The usual ways you and your spouse communicate lead to predictable results; frustration, anger, withdrawing, or fighting. Is it even worth trying to communicate? If…