3 Guaranteed Ways to Change Your Spouse

3 Guaranteed Ways to Change Your Spouse

Oh, if it were only that easy! I hear every day from a husband or wife who says, “I can’t get my spouse to do . . . . And if they would change, everything would be great!” You cannot get married expecting to change your spouse. And yet you can change them. Sound confusing?

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Intimacy in a Fallen World

Intimacy in a Fallen World

How you do relationships is both a reflection of and the determining factor in the quality of your life. If your closest personal relationship(s) is doing well, you can handle just about any challenge life throws at you. But if your closest personal relationship(s) is broken, destructive, or stagnant, you will struggle to thrive even if everything else in your life is wonderful. But doing intimacy in a fallen world is not easy.

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Use the Conflict in your Marriage to bring you Closer

Use the Conflict in your Marriage to bring you Closer

Fights where you or your spouse use words or fists (or anything else) to hurt or manipulate the other is damaging. But it’s just as damaging to give in or become a doormat hoping to secure peace at any cost. Two human beings getting married will experience conflict. Rightly viewed, you can leverage that kind of conflict in your marriage to end up closer together.

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You’re Not Meant to Grow Alone

You’re Not Meant to Grow Alone

It’s a very old song: “No man is an island. No man stands alone.” In the body of Christ that’s especially true. You cannot become the person God created you to be without the role of others in your life. For those of us who are fiercely independent, like me, that’s a truth we love to challenge and resist. But you are not meant to grow alone.

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How to Grow a One Flesh Marriage

How to Grow a One Flesh Marriage

Imagine that Friday in the Garden of Eden. Adam wakes from his God-induced sleep missing a rib, and before him is a sight more captivating than anything his newly-created eyes have yet seen: Woman! “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24) How can you grow a one flesh marriage?

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