What Does Women’s Health Have To Do With Your Faith?

What Does Women’s Health Have To Do With Your Faith?

Satisfied WomanShe and I were waiting together in the green room at the church, preparing to make our respective presentations to an excited group of women. The moment she heard I was an OB-Gyn physician she asked, “Can I talk to you about something?” Women’s health and faith were not at peace with each other in her mind.

My new friend and her husband were wrestling with some decisions about their marriage and family that had some significant ethical implications. They knew most of the medical information they needed to know. They knew what they could do.

But they weren’t satisfied with knowing what they could do. They were dedicated followers of Jesus, and wanted their decisions to honor God in every way. They were more interested in what they should do. They had heard what seemed to be conflicting perspectives from friends and other Christians, and were struggling to know how to proceed.

Women’s health and faith have sometimes seemed at odds with each other. But that’s really an illusion.

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Wifey Wednesday: Flip that Mental Switch!

Wifey Wednesday: Flip that Mental Switch!

[guestpost]I’m so excited to be guest posting over at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum today! Thank You!!!! to Sheila Wray Gregoire for the privilege. I invite you to check out all the great resources Sheila has to offer.[/guestpost]

Mental SwitchYou may have experienced the vicious cycle yourself. Something isn’t going well between you and your husband. Perhaps he was inconsiderate and said something negative about you in front of your friends. Perhaps you were extra tired or truly had a headache, and had to refuse his sexual advances. The temperature between you dropped from pleasantly warm to tepid.

Neither of you felt much like “making up.” A few days later something else happened, and the temperature dropped again. Now you’re starting to feel a real chill. You’re frustrated at his lack of understanding, and he certainly isn’t doing anything to make you feel warmer towards him. And if he were asked, he would say that you’re going out of your way to be distant, unavailable, and downright “unwifely!”

God wants us to “love, honor, and cherish” each other. And there’s not much loving, honoring, or cherishing going on.

In my role as an OB-Gyn physician, and in my ministry activities, I hear from couples like this all too often. What starts out as a temporary speedbump can easily develop into a wall between you.

It’s been two months since he made any effort at intimacy.” “She hasn’t let me make love to her for almost a year.”

And the weeks, months, or even years continue until you’re more like roommates instead of husband and wife. I can feel the hurt, the frustration, and the loneliness in these couples.

Is that you?

As a wife you have plenty of excuses you could use to keep your husband at arm’s length and not “have to” engage in sex.    . . .

Want to read the rest of the post, and unlock the key to flipping that mental switch?

Join me over at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum today. I’ll see you there!

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Women In Charge!

Women In Charge!

Mother and DaughterWomen have a difficult time in this world. We always have. It’s not that men always have it easy, but as women we seem to get an especially difficult load of “stuff.”

Yes, this post is especially for women. First of all, I am one. Second, I’m an OB-Gyn physician, so the patients I see and care for are women. Men have their issues, but this is about you and me, girlfriend!

Just think of all the things we have to worry about:

  • Periods every month for up to 40 years, with their associated inconvenience and the physical and mental symptoms than come with them.
  • Pregnancy. As one of my step-daughters said, “Growing a human is hard work!”
  • No pregnancy. Infertility is not exclusively a female concern, but we certainly carry the brunt of the physical and emotional load when this becomes a problem.
  • Preventing pregnancy. Whether fair or not, decisions and use of contraception fall mostly on our shoulders.
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The Meaning of Sex in the Heart of a Woman

The Meaning of Sex in the Heart of a Woman

Pensive FemaleSex is messy. And the messiness of sex is not primarily physical (although it is that). The meaning of sex, especially in a woman’s heart, has taken on such emotionally heavy content that you can’t be sure the person you’re talking to understands what you mean without a big explanation.

How did a little three-letter word come to be so messy?

Imagine the first man and the first woman. Adam wakes up from his sleep missing a rib. But what he sees before him almost takes his breath away. For all the beauty he has known in the moments since his creation – magnificent sky, majestic mountains, birds singing, animals showing strength, playfulness, and affection, even meeting God Himself up close and personal – nothing has “popped” his brain like the creature standing in front of him.

And Eve? Her whole being lights up in an instant. Her first moments of awareness are filled with fireworks and rapture. She is made to be Queen, and she feels nothing but joy as she awakens to that reality. Gazing up at her is a man stronger, more viral, and more completely good than any of us can imagine. And he is hers! The attraction is complete. From the moment of her creation she feels wanted, important, cherished – loved.

I don’t know if God was visibly present to Adam and Eve at that moment. But I’m sure He was watching. God filled Adam and Eve with all the joy, creativity, strength, and beauty of Himself. They were completely healthy, senses fully alive, more glorious in every way than any human being around today. Think two eighteen-year-olds, multiplied 100 times over.

And they were naked.

So don’t tell me that with all the “fully alive-ness” they were created with,

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Why I Hate Unnecessary Suffering

Why I Hate Unnecessary Suffering

Sad FlowerThere were, and still are, many reasons I’m glad I became an OB-Gyn doctor. I love serving women in some of the most personal and significant moments of their lives. Being the first human being to hold a newborn baby and introduce him or her to the wide-eyed parents is an honor indeed.

But not all of my doctoring is joy-filled. What I hate about being a doctor is all the unnecessary suffering I keep seeing. Oh, there’s plenty of “necessary” suffering I deal with in caring for women. Pregnancy is difficult, and sometimes life-threatening. Labor is terribly painful. Fibroids and endometriosis and menopause can involve heavy suffering for the women so affected. And I’m privileged to be able to relieve much of that suffering. That’s a joy.

But there’s a lot more suffering women experience that’s not necessary. And I see it almost every day. It’s the unnecessary aspect of that suffering that pains me most, knowing that it didn’t need to happen. I still do what I can to relieve that suffering, but it shouldn’t have happened.

How needless, how preventable, is the suffering of:

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