For the Christian Woman Struggling with Hormones

For the Christian Woman Struggling with Hormones

Nadine was almost in tears. She knew she was experiencing the hormonal changes of menopause, and had been coping pretty well for a few years. But recently she found herself unable to deal with even the normal daily frustrations of her job at a Christian school. She had previously been known as a skilled “peacemaker” when conflicts developed between parents, teachers, or students, but now she was more likely to become angry than be helpful.

Her marriage was starting to suffer as well. Her husband was trying to be understanding, but Nadine always seemed to be depressed, tired, angry, or distant. It had been many months since they had been able to have a relaxing evening together, and just talk.

Nadine was worried that something was not right between her and God. She had increased her prayer time, and had read some Bible study books about dealing with anger. She had spoken with her pastor’s wife who had prayed with her, but things didn’t seem to get any better. She felt frustrated and powerless, and struggled to not lose hope.

Nadine is a great example of how every part of your being impacts every other area. There are times you may not immediately understand what the root cause of your distress is; that may be why you’re reading this now. But menopause is one time when physical changes may lead to very real emotional and spiritual problems.

Some people in Christian circles seem to give the impression that if you are only spiritual enough, all other problems will take care of themselves.

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5 Ways Being Single Helped Me Be Happily Married

5 Ways Being Single Helped Me Be Happily Married

Single Happy WomanI had given up on marriage. It just wasn’t for me. It’s not that I didn’t want to be married: I had hoped and prayed for years. I had dated from time to time, but no relationship ever developed that was really serious. By the time I was in my early forties I had come to terms with the fact that I would always be single.

But then, surprise! When I was 48 years old God brought a wonderful man, Al Tanksley, into my life. Neither of us had been looking for a spouse. But he was ready. I was ready. And we got married. It was truly a miraculous God thing! And very worth waiting for.

During my single years I learned a lot. It was that kind of growing up that has allowed me to be so happily married now. Here are a few of those lessons:

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When Arms Are Empty: Infertility

When Arms Are Empty: Infertility

Many couples do not have an opportunity to experience the joy of parenting, and do not have a baby to hold in their arms. Over ten percent of couples are unable to achieve a pregnancy within one year of trying. That’s over 7 million couples in this country. And that leads to the sometimes rocky journey of infertility and its treatment.

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5 Actions to Take With Almost Any Problem

Woman Feeling StressIf it wasn’t one thing it was another. Hot flashes. No sleep. Blood tests showing problems. Both kids recently married, and now having an empty next. Over-the-top work stress. Marriage having some challenges. The very professional woman broke down in tears, hoping for some help from me as her doctor.

Is Linda’s problem medical? Her physical symptoms are very real, and there is a very possible biochemical reason for some of them. There are some medication options that may help. But no pill will fix the stress at her job, or fill her empty nest. And if she was not under this level of stress, the physical symptoms would be much less of an issue.

I explained to Linda how inter-connected a women is in her body, mind, and soul. And we talked through these action steps that I’ll share with you.

When faced with almost any problem, here’s what to do.

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10 Things A Woman Wants and Needs

Woman with ScarfFor husbands, boyfriends, and prospective boyfriends, a woman often presents a mystery. If you’re a guy, you probably would do just about anything to impress your lady love, or win her heart.

But do you know what she really wants?

And if you’re a woman, do you recognize what your heart really wants – and needs?

Sure, we’re all a little different. But in the deep parts of a woman’s soul most of us share these common needs. And yes, they are needs. Inside a woman’s heart is the need:

  1. To be wanted. She wants to be number One to somebody, to know that there’s nothing more important than her in someone else’s heart.
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