Talk to your spouse about sex? Hmmm. Perhaps your response is:
- “I’m too squeamish to talk about that!”
- “Any time I try to talk about it we get into a fight.”
- “If we talk about it, I’ll feel like he’s forcing me to do what I don’t want to do.”
- “I don’t know how to put into words what I’m feeling.”
Sex can become one of the most contentious and painful aspects of a marriage. Or it can be one of the most affirming and bonding parts of your relationship. One of the best way to move sex from something you avoid to something you anticipate is through talking about it.
Not long ago I asked my husband one of the questions below. His immediate response: “What a wonderful question!” We talked about it, and it was a beautiful moment of emotional closeness between us.