To the Wife Traumatized by Married Sex

To the Wife Traumatized by Married Sex

Just because sex happens within marriage doesn’t always mean it’s good. God designed sex to be a beautiful life-giving nurturing experience between husband and wife. But evil has so hijacked sex that what God intended for good has too often been used to steal, kill, and destroy – even in marriage. This article is not for everyone. But if you’re a wife traumatized by married sex, keep reading.

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Sex Before Marriage: What I Did Right – And Wrong

Sex Before Marriage: What I Did Right – And Wrong

I did it right. I made it. I didn’t have sex before marriage. And it was a long wait, too.

And I did it very wrong. “Not having sex before marriage” was not because of any superior virtue on my part. Oh yes, I’d heard all the church stuff about waiting for marriage, and I planned to wait. But I was not tending to my heart. It took me a long time to figure out that while behaviors do have consequences, sex is about so much more than behaviors. And the stuff going on under the surface in my heart was seriously messed up. 

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What does Wholeness Look Like?

What does Wholeness Look Like?

Jesus had a wonderful way of asking questions. You may know the story well. Jesus sees a man lying on his mat, having been in that state for 38 years. And Jesus asks Him, “Do you want to be made whole?” (John 5:6) What does it mean to “be made whole”? What does wholeness look like?

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He Needs You to Need Him

He Needs You to Need Him

This one is for wives only. (I know; you may read this even if you’re not a wife.) But here’s a secret many husbands wish their wives knew; he needs you to need him.

But this is not for every wife.

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Did I Marry the Wrong Person?

Did I Marry the Wrong Person?

It’s important to choose your spouse wisely. But you’re already married! When your relationship goes sideways it’s easy to feel as though things would be wonderful if you were just married to Mr. or Ms. Right instead of the uncaring, miserable, blockhead of a person that is your spouse. You ask, Did I marry the wrong person?

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