You’re probably doing both. Two sinners getting married is a setup for pain – and for transformation. It’s likely you’re getting both wounded and healed yourself, perhaps more of one than the other. But that’s for another day. For now, what affect are you having on your husband or wife? How are you bringing yourself to the marriage? Are you wounding or healing your spouse?
Have you ever been on a sailboat? The one time I had the pleasure of sailing was an amazing experience. We were moving across the water fast – and without a sound.
The thing about sailing is that the power to move you does not come from the boat itself. There’s no motor. No one is rowing. Something you cannot see is carrying you along.
Why do we do what we do as believers? What’s supposed to happen to you as a result of being a Christian? Why are we “supposed” to go to church, read the Bible, and help others? Why do we invest in church buildings, Christian education, youth and children’s programs, Christian TV, Christian music, Christian books, missions, and all the rest of it? What’s the point of all the time and energy put into weekend programs? What’s the purpose of the Christian life, or of Christian ministry?
Interpretation is important. From one language to another, between man-speak and woman-speak, from the Bible to our own lives – interpretation affects us greatly. Assuming we understand can often get us into trouble. When facing both the good and not-so-good circumstances seeking God’s perspective can change so much about how you act and feel.
You found your fixer upper! Your creative soul has imagined this moment for years. But finally, there it is in the perfect location. This is the home you’ve been dreaming of, and you’re determined to make it your own.
Sure, the landscaping is overgrown, the paint is peeling badly, and some windows are broken. The foundation has settled, the electrical wiring and plumbing are hopeless, and the roof has a bad leak.
But none of that dissuades you. The moment the deed has been recorded the work begins. Demolition day makes the house look like a worse disaster. Deep holes appear where foundation repair is underway. Electrical wiring and plumbing are replaced, and a new roof is put on. Walls, flooring, cabinetry, landscaping, furnishings – all brand new. Your fixer upper is now a gorgeous home!
