There are good reasons for you to hold back. Fear is a big part of why you keep hiding. Getting under the surface and dealing with your sexual stuff is scary. But the transformation comes when you choose the courage to deal with your sexual stuff even if you’re afraid.
I did it right. I made it. I didn’t have sex before marriage. And it was a long wait, too.
And I did it very wrong. “Not having sex before marriage” was not because of any superior virtue on my part. Oh yes, I’d heard all the church stuff about waiting for marriage, and I planned to wait. But I was not tending to my heart. It took me a long time to figure out that while behaviors do have consequences, sex is about so much more than behaviors. And the stuff going on under the surface in my heart was seriously messed up.
There’s something you keep doing that you know you shouldn’t be doing. Or perhaps you’re not doing something you know you should be doing. It’s like there are hooks in your brain that keep you going in a certain wrong direction regardless of how hard you try to do something different. Your heart cries, Why do I keep sinning the same way?
If you’ve been raised in church you’ve probably heard this is how it’s “supposed” to be. Boy meets girl, they fall in love, have sex for the first time on their wedding night, and *fireworks!* They immediately enter a fulfilling sexual relationship that lasts for the rest of their lives. But there’s a good chance that’s not your story. And your sexual story impacts your marriage.
You’ve heard, “God has a purpose for you.” But many people are frustrated, wondering why they’re not finding or experiencing fulfillment in that purpose. It may seem that other Christians are more fulfilled than you, and you wonder what may be wrong. Before going any further, there’s a problem you will need to deal with that may be holding you from your purpose.
