This week we celebrate Thanksgiving Day in the United States. The challenges presented by the COVID-19 pandemic, racial and political conflict, and more make it especially important that we choose gratitude. Among all the other things you’ve been blessed with, you can even be grateful for your messy marriage.
The only people who don’t get triggered are those who are perfectly healed and completely mature. And neither you nor your spouse are there yet! So how do you handle triggers in your marriage? Is a fight or withdrawing inevitable? There must be a better way.
When you feel stuck and little seems to change, humans tend to fall into one of two ditches. Some people dig in and determine to “try harder.” Other people give up. And sometimes you go from one extreme to the other, and back again. So what really is your role? Are you hoping or doing for your breakthrough?
A healthy marriage doesn’t just “happen.” You’ve learned that by now. And you’ve prayed and prayed, but nothing seems to change where you live. Is it hopeless to want a better marriage? Are your expectations reasonable? What can you hope for in your marriage?