How Do You Handle Stress?

Man Holding Head in HandsIn preparation for being part of a group I hope to work with, I underwent a behavioral interview this week. This is very different from the interview a normal job or school application involves. A behavioral interview focuses on such things as how you deal with people, how you handle situations you dislike, what excites and energizes you, and how you handle stress.

How DO you handle stress?

That’s a good question. When I feel stressed I usually get quiet. In fact one of the first ways my husband knows I’m stressed is that I don’t talk much. I know the likelihood of saying things that I will later regret goes up when I’m stressed, so I don’t say much at all.

That may or may not be a healthy way to handle stress. I’ve learned that people around me appreciate knowing what I’m feeling stressed about; at least they don’t have to worry that they are doing something wrong. Unless of course they ARE the cause of my stress! (OOPS, better be careful here.)

There are many different ways of handling stress. Here are a few:

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When Arms Are Empty: Infertility

Infertile CoupleMany of us watched this week as Kate Middleton and Prince William left St Mary’s Hospital in London, England, and gave the world its first glimpse of His Royal Highness Prince George, heir to the British throne. There’s something intimate and beautiful about new parents holding their newborn baby in their arms.

But sadly, many couples do not have an opportunity to experience that joy, and do not have a baby to hold in their arms. Over ten percent of couples are unable to achieve a pregnancy within one year of trying. That’s over 7 million couples in this country. And that leads to the sometimes rocky journey of infertility and its treatment.

The miracle of new life still holds many mysteries. But we do know a number of things that must happen, and happen just right. A mature healthy egg must release from a woman’s ovary. Healthy sperm must find its way to the egg. The fertilized embryo must find its way to a healthy uterine landing place, and develop a connection with mother’s blood supply in order to continue to grow. Problems at any point along the way may keep pregnancy from happening.

The more we learn about the miracle of pregnancy and new life, the more amazed I am at how often pregnancy normally does happen. It really IS a miracle.

For couples facing infertility the emotional and relationship cost is high.

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5 Actions to Take With Almost Any Problem

Woman Feeling StressIf it wasn’t one thing it was another. Hot flashes. No sleep. Blood tests showing problems. Both kids recently married, and now having an empty next. Over-the-top work stress. Marriage having some challenges. The very professional woman broke down in tears, hoping for some help from me as her doctor.

Is Linda’s problem medical? Her physical symptoms are very real, and there is a very possible biochemical reason for some of them. There are some medication options that may help. But no pill will fix the stress at her job, or fill her empty nest. And if she was not under this level of stress, the physical symptoms would be much less of an issue.

I explained to Linda how inter-connected a women is in her body, mind, and soul. And we talked through these action steps that I’ll share with you.

When faced with almost any problem, here’s what to do.

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Don’t Let These 4 Dangerous Spiritual Viruses Infect You

Don’t Let These 4 Dangerous Spiritual Viruses Infect You

Sandra and Tom plan to never enter a church again. They feel bruised and beaten emotionally and spiritually at the hands of a group of Christians. They feel their only hope of survival is to separate from the Christian church as they see it. Perhaps like them, you have suffered from spiritual viruses. 

I hope God breaks through to Sandra and Tom at some point. I hope they come to realize that true followers of Jesus don’t beat people up! The Christian life may be challenging. God calls us to a higher plane of life than we ever dreamed possible. But spiritual abuse is not from God.

Unhealthy spirituality can be toxic – to your mental well-being, to your physical health, and to your relationship with God.

But how do you know if you’re experiencing one of these dangerous distortions of true Christianity? Don’t let one of these dangerous spiritual viruses infect your life:

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Sleep – Good for Your Body, Mind, and Soul

Sleep – Good for Your Body, Mind, and Soul

I’ve never especially liked going to bed. There’s so much to do, so much to enjoy, so much to watch or listen to, so much to talk about. Sleep seems like such a waste of time. With a busy life and medical practice I think my husband gets tired of telling me I need to get some sleep!

We all know that our human bodies need sleep and rest. There is a huge amount of research now indicating that if you want to live a long and healthy life, you need 7-8 hours of sleep a night. Chronic lack of sleep leads to all kinds of physical problems.

But that’s not all. Your mind, emotions, ability to handle stress, and how you relate to your children, spouse, God, and others are all affected. How you treat your body in this area does impact you and those around you in many ways.

Consider these benefits of getting appropriate sleep:

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