What You Should Learn From A Bad Day

Bad Hair DayBad days will come. You have them, and so do I.

I’ve had a couple bad days recently. And I don’t like them any better than you do.

But I’ve come to realize that having a bad day can be very useful. Through the experience of having many bad days (who hasn’t?), I’ve come to understand that there are many things to be learned. And some of those things really cannot be learned on a good day.

Here are some things you can learn from having a bad day:

  1. Tomorrow will still come. Regardless of how bad I feel right now, this is not the end. And there are plenty of reasons to believe that good things will happen tomorrow. At least THIS won’t happen the same way again.
  2. I’m human. My physical, emotional, and spiritual strength has limits. A bad day usually happens when I come up against one of those limits. It’s wise to be reminded that I am not God!
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10 Reasons You Should Smile More

10 Reasons You Should Smile More

Smiling ChildSmile, and the world smiles with you. Weep, and you weep alone.”

Well, maybe that saying originally started out with “Laugh”, but “Smile” works just as well. Perhaps it shouldn’t be that way, and often moments of sorrow provide opportunities for others to demonstrate sincere God-inspired compassion.

But it’s still true that smiles are contagious!

That’s only one reason to be conscious of how often you smile. Smiling is good for your body, mind, and soul. It’s good for the people around you. And it can demonstrate an inner hope and peace that speaks of God’s work in your heart.

So, here are some specific reasons you should smile more often, and more sincerely:

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8 Things To Do When You’re Tired

8 Things To Do When You’re Tired

Sleep. Is that what you think? When you’re tired because you are behind on your sleep, that may be the very best thing to do.

But not so fast. Sometimes sleep may work against you.

When women come to see me as a doctor, fatigue is often their Number One complaint. They are often hoping for a medical solution. There are certainly medical problems that can lead to being tired, such as anemia, thyroid dysfunction, kidney or liver disease, sleep apnea, or hormonal problems. And when one of those problems is present, of course it’s appropriate to treat it medically.

But so often it’s not a medical problem that’s causing fatigue. There are many lifestyle factors in our modern world that just wear you out! An unhealthy diet, lack of physical activity, stressful work, relationship problems, digital overload, worry and anxiety, a soul that’s distressed -all of these and more can leave you weary and miserable.

An overdose of caffeine may help you stay awake longer, but it will only wear your body and mind out more. There IS a better way!

So what can you do when you’re tired?

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A Christmas Message from Dr Carol

I love Christmas. I love the lights and decorations, the music, the food. I love giving presents to the people I care about. I love seeing the wonder in our grandchildren’s eyes on Christmas morning.

But I didn’t always feel this way about Christmas. There were many Christmases I was alone, sometimes because of work, and sometimes for other reasons. There were times hearing “Silent Night” would bring me to tears. The apparent joy around me made my internal loneliness all the more painful.

Perhaps you are in that place this Christmas.  …..

Watch this week’s video for a new way to think about celebration, especially the celebration of Christmas:

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Surviving the Family Drama at the Holidays

Christmas is a time when even normal families can feel extra stress. And what if yours is not a so-called “normal” family? What if you and your ex are fighting over who gets the kids, and when? What if both sets of in-laws expect you to spend the holidays with them this year? What if several generations in your family have very different needs during this holiday season?

The fact is, your family is probably far from perfect. Unless you’re one of the mythical Cleavers, Christmas probably won’t turn out exactly the way you might wish. Some people in your family may end up being very unhappy, perhaps with you. You may have to spend time around people you don’t like at all. Your efforts to try and make everything wonderful may fall flat, or even lead to more misunderstanding.

So here’s the important tip. …

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