How to Enjoy Sex With Your Husband

How to Enjoy Sex With Your Husband

Bedroom conflict is at it again. Husband wants sex with wife and she doesn’t want to give it. Wife wants husband to show interest in intimacy with her but he doesn’t. Both men and women feel lonely, unwanted, frustrated, and sometimes desperate and angry. It leaves some wondering, “Could I have married the wrong person?”

And then there are plenty of women who wish their husbands would just leave them alone. Perhaps sex is physically uncomfortable. Maybe it takes too much energy and you’re tired. You might not feel close to him at all right now, or even like him very much. Sex may bring up unpleasant or painful emotional feelings, perhaps from the past. Or maybe you feel like his request or “need” for sex in an intrusion into the life you really wish you could have.

A woman’s sexual response can be affected by many different things. If sex causes physical pain her brain will naturally try to avoid it and she will find it difficult to respond sexually. Unwanted memories may intrude and prevent her body and mind from responding. Busy-ness, worry, fatigue, or fear will shut her down. A woman usually responds best when she feels safe, close, and connected. For women, sex is a great deal more in the mind than anywhere else.

So how’s a woman to go about making this part of her marriage pleasant, or even enjoyable?

Here are some things that will help you enjoy sex with your husband:

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What the Best and Worst of Sexuality Tells Us About God

What the Best and Worst of Sexuality Tells Us About God

Sexuality tells us about God. For some, putting “God” and “sex” in the same sentence might seem sacrilegious. The only message some have heard is, “God said No. He doesn’t want you to have pleasure.” Some others seriously wish that God had come up with an alternative way to propagate the human race.

But if sex was God’s idea – and it was (Genesis 2:25) – then there must be more to the idea than pain and frustration. Instead, I believe it tells us something very powerful about God Himself.

Think of the worst possible things you have either experienced or know about in relation to a woman’s sexuality. You may think of words such as pain, exploitation, perversion, violence, abuse, molestation, control, ownership, trafficking, and more. Especially if you’ve been hurt here, the idea of sexuality may leave you feeling dirty, used, discarded, powerless, violated, and betrayed. Feelings such as fear, terror, revulsion, pain, anger, and despair may overwhelm you.

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5 Ways To Help Your Husband Desire You

5 Ways To Help Your Husband Desire You

Deep inside a woman’s soul is the desire to be wanted. God put it there. And all the feminism, the violence against women, and the other painful distortions this world has put on women, have not succeeded in drowning out that desire.

Do you want your husband to desire you? For some women the answer is a clear Yes. But instead of desirable, you have often felt pushed away, unimportant, and almost unseen. You may be tired of him wanting anything – or anyone – else but you. You remember what it felt like for him to desire you, and you would love for him to want you again, even though you might not be sure how to respond if he did.

For some women the answer is a qualified No. Being wanted has too often meant manipulation, selfish demands, and emotional and physical pain. Instead of a woman, his desire has left you feeling like a thing, used, abused, and used up. You might not even admit it to yourself, but you work at making yourself undesirable to keep from getting hurt.

Your husband is completely responsible for his behavior. No exceptions. But God gave you unique qualities designed to help your husband be the man God wants him to be. You know the saying, “Behind every good man is a good woman.” There’s a certain amount of Biblical truth in that statement!

There’s something extremely meaningful about drawing your husband’s desires your way. And you may be surprised at your own happiness and the stronger intimacy between you as a result.

Here’s how you can help your husband desire you:

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5 Ways To Connect With Your Husband

Couple TogetherYou wake up one day and realize you don’t feel like a wife at all. You feel more like a roommate. Or worse. If it wasn’t for the band on your finger, or perhaps the children you share, you would be just as satisfied NOT being Mrs. …. And wouldn’t life be much less complicated?

OUCH! If you feel that disconnected from your husband, it’s time to take action. The alternative is a sure death of your marriage.

Perhaps you would say your marriage is already dead. Only God knows whether that’s completely true. But remember, God has a habit of resurrecting dead things. It’s just possible that your decisive action now could be the means God uses to make your marriage alive again.

Here are 5 actions you can take that have a good chance of opening the connection between you and your husband again. You can’t control the response on his end. But why not give it a try?

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10 Things You Can (and Can’t) Expect In A Good Marriage

10 Things You Can (and Can’t) Expect In A Good Marriage

With all the destructive marriages out there, is it any wonder that some young people are having second thoughts about getting married at all? Is “happily ever after” ever possible? Is “happily married” just a cruel joke? What CAN you expect in a “good” marriage?

Many things go into the success (or lack thereof) of a marriage: communication, compatibility, expectations, outside support, commitment, and more.

I think it’s enlightening to hear couples who have been successfully married for several decades talk about things such as how they handle conflict, how they care for each other, and the willingness to persevere even if things become difficult. Without fail, such couples display a deep commitment and willingness to care for each other.

But what can you reasonably expect in a “happy” marriage? How do you know when you have one?

First, here are 7 things you CANNOT expect:

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