Sex Before Marriage: What I Did Right – And Wrong

Sex Before Marriage: What I Did Right – And Wrong

I did it right. I made it. I didn’t have sex before marriage. And it was a long wait, too.

And I did it very wrong. “Not having sex before marriage” was not because of any superior virtue on my part. Oh yes, I’d heard all the church stuff about waiting for marriage, and I planned to wait. But I was not tending to my heart. It took me a long time to figure out that while behaviors do have consequences, sex is about so much more than behaviors. And the stuff going on under the surface in my heart was seriously messed up.  

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Nine Possible Reasons Your Spouse Doesn’t Want to Sleep With You

Nine Possible Reasons Your Spouse Doesn’t Want to Sleep With You

Sex and intimacy (they are related, but not the same!) is a top area of conflict in many marriages. Trying to demand sex from your spouse, or giving up and withdrawing yourself, are not good options. As with all marriage problems, you’ll get farther if you take time to understand something of the Why behind the issue, the reasons your spouse doesn’t want to sleep with you.

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Why do I Keep Sinning the Same Way?

Why do I Keep Sinning the Same Way?

There’s something you keep doing that you know you shouldn’t be doing. Or perhaps you’re not doing something you know you should be doing. It’s like there are hooks in your brain that keep you going in a certain wrong direction regardless of how hard you try to do something different. Your heart cries, Why do I keep sinning the same way?

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Single Christian, Are You Struggling with Sex and Intimacy?

Single Christian, Are You Struggling with Sex and Intimacy?

If you’re a Christian and you’ve been in church, you’ve probably heard the message “sex is for marriage.” But you’re not married right now. So what are you supposed to do with your sexual drives? What if you’ve “messed up?” If you’re struggling with sex and intimacy as single Christian, you’re not alone.

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How Your Sexual Story Impacts Your Marriage

How Your Sexual Story Impacts Your Marriage

If you’ve been raised in church you’ve probably heard this is how it’s “supposed” to be. Boy meets girl, they fall in love, have sex for the first time on their wedding night, and *fireworks!* They immediately enter a fulfilling sexual relationship that lasts for the rest of their lives. But there’s a good chance that’s not your story. And your sexual story impacts your marriage.

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