Keeping a positive outlook on life brings many benefits – both to your own experience and to your marriage. But choosing good things to think about can seem especially difficult when your spouse is negative.
Feeling overwhelmed with life. Distracted without a sense of purpose. Overstressed and overanxious. Lonely, without close relationships. Unable to focus, be quiet, or hear God’s voice. Could your hyperconnected digital diet be causing anxiety?
Some people get stuck in the past. They respond as though the trauma or other challenge they experienced decades ago just happened yesterday. Some people focus on today; “If it feels good, do it!” And some people are always worrying about or planning for tomorrow, never enjoying today. So which do you spend most effort on between past, present, and future?
You fell in love. You said “I do.” You thought you knew the person you were planning to make a life with. And then one day you look at the person in the bed next to you and wonder, “Where did you come from?” Understanding your spouse’s heart becomes increasingly important the longer you’re married.