A good marriage is the union of two good forgivers. But when you’ve hurt your spouse it may take a lot more than “I’m sorry” to repair your relationship. And most of that is on you.
Unhealthy people draw other people into their dysfunction. Anyone trying to be married to, or parent, or care for, or love someone who is harming themselves and others struggles with knowing what to do. How can you tell the difference between codependency and love?
Whether you’re a New Year’s Resolutions person or not, the science is clear that defining clear goals makes it more likely you will reach them. Have you considered some relationship goals for your marriage for 2020?
Micromanaging, criticizing, and fault-finding are toxic to a relationship. But problems don’t go away by ignoring them. What do you do when your spouse is doing truly hurtful things? Can you confront your spouse in their bad behavior without destroying your relationship?
