Do’s and Don’ts for Husbands on Making God First

Do’s and Don’ts for Husbands on Making God First

Man PrayingI know a pastor’s wife whose spirit is crushed because of her husband’s constant criticism. Another wife feels like a single parent while her husband can’t be bothered because he needs to “study and pray.” Yet another struggles with loneliness because her husband never engages in spiritual activities with her.

Writing to husbands is a little like writing to another species. And I don’t presume to understand all the ways God works in your male hearts.

But I do know some of the things women feel when men use spirituality to crush them, ignore them, control them, or put them down. Your wife is a treasure from God. If you want your own prayers to be answered, treat her with the same loving care with which Christ loved – and loves – the church. (See 1 Pet 3:7)

A few do’s and don’ts to put things in perspective while you’re making God first:

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Do’s and Don’ts for Wives on Making God First

Do’s and Don’ts for Wives on Making God First

Woman PrayingA young wife asked me, “How can I respect and love my husband while making God first? Isn’t my husband supposed to be Number 1 to me? But then does that mean I’m not honoring God? I’m confused.”

I’m sure my friend is not the only one who is sometimes confused. If you are a woman who wants to honor both God and your husband, how do you do that? Who comes first? God comes first, right? But what does that do to your husband’s heart? You want him to be the spiritual head of your home, don’t you? How can he be your spiritual head and also a competitor with God in your heart? Something is wrong in how we talk about all this.

This confusion has come primarily through our Christian lingo. And I’ve been guilty of it at times myself. God never intended this to be confusing. He intended the Christian life to bring husband and wife closer together, not drive them apart.

A few do’s and don’ts that may help:

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When Broken Vows Break the Heart

When Broken Vows Break the Heart

InfidelityForsaking all others, keep yourself only for him (or her).” You said that, or something similar, in your marriage vows, didn’t you?  Now perhaps that dream has become a nightmare. If you are facing infidelity in your marriage, you know how devastating that nightmare can be.

Adultery almost never begins with a physical act. It begins in the heart. It begins with a lingering glance, a flirtatious comment, a fantasy of connection. It grows with a search to fulfill something one feels is missing – perhaps adventure, emotional intimacy, or sexual contact. The heart finds a way to rationalize, and you cross that line. Sooner or later the pain, loss, and trauma of broken vows catch up with you – and those you love or loved.

If you are married and NOT facing infidelity right now, let me encourage you to do these things:

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5 Things You Don’t Want To Regret

Sad WomanIt’s not the years in your life that count: it’s the life in your years that’s important.

You may have heard that idea in different forms. One of the saddest of all reflections is, “What might have been?!” There are plenty of things in life you don’t have control over. But how tragic to get to the end and realize that YOU were the reason you didn’t experience more, love more, give more.

Don’t let these regrets happen to you:

  1. Time with loved ones. Busyness can so easily take over the time you should invest with those who are most important. Your children are only small once. After your parents are dead your time with them is gone forever. Opportunities for evenings, weekends, or vacations with your spouse may never be there again. Treasure the people close to you while you can.
  2. Neglecting your health.
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Growing Up Without Regrets

Couple Taking PhotosGrowing up has never been easy. But in today’s culture young people have more challenges to face than ever before, especially in the area of sexuality. The basic issues may be no different, but the speed of life and the multiple pressures teens face make the risks even greater.

A few sobering statistics: according to the Centers for Disease Control and TeenHelp.com, 48% of high-school students report having had sexual intercourse. One in four teens contracts a sexually-transmitted infection every year. One-third of young women have been pregnant by the time they are age 20, and 80% of those pregnancies are unplanned. The long-term costs of these realities are very high, in terms of higher rates of infertility and poverty, not to mention the emotional costs.

A week ago the Food and Drug Administration made the decision to approve Plan B – the so-called morning after pill – for sale over-the-counter to anyone age 15 or over. Some women’s groups howl that even this minimal restriction is infringement on women’s rights, and is inconsistent with good medical science. Other groups are just as angry that such medications can be made easily available to teens who need parental consent for just about anything else.

Here’s what I believe:

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