Are You Wounding or Healing Your Spouse?

Are You Wounding or Healing Your Spouse?

You’re probably doing both. Two sinners getting married is a setup for pain – and for transformation. It’s likely you’re getting both wounded and healed yourself, perhaps more of one than the other. But that’s for another day. For now, what affect are you having on your husband or wife? How are you bringing yourself to the marriage? Are you wounding or healing your spouse?

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4 Ways to Change the Dance in Your Marriage

4 Ways to Change the Dance in Your Marriage

A relationship is like a dance. You and your spouse have fallen into some ways of relating that seem “normal.” Whether you like them or not, you know the steps of this dance. But if this dance isn’t working to bring you closer to each other and closer to God, it’s time to change the dance in your marriage.

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When You Don’t Feel Like Loving Your Spouse

When You Don’t Feel Like Loving Your Spouse

Loving is easy when it feels good. That’s why they call it “falling in love.” In our 21st century western culture there would be very few marriages if the emotions weren’t overwhelming. But emotions come like waves; they rise – and then they fall. What do you do then? What do you do when you don’t feel like loving your spouse?

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Having the Sex Talk with Your Spouse

Having the Sex Talk with Your Spouse

There’s not a couple who comes to marriage with the same sexual desires and expectations. Your view of intimacy is not the same as your spouse’s. Sexual love languages differ. One of the greatest excitements, challenges, and benefits of marriage is exploring intimacy together, including physical intimacy. And for that you’ve got to talk – yes, talk – about sex with your spouse.

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How to Deal with Masturbation and Pornography as a Christian

How to Deal with Masturbation and Pornography as a Christian

How do you handle the solo sexual stuff? How do you deal with masturbation and pornography as a Christian?

I’m writing about this because you asked. You send me questions about this almost every week, and you deserve an answer. As both a Medical Doctor and Doctor of Ministry, I’ll do my best to offer you both truth and hope on this topic.

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