It’s something most of us don’t like to talk about or even think about. But there is no more universal experience than losing a loved one in death. Part of your heart is torn, and it will never be the same again.
The experience of grief is unpreventable. It doesn’t matter much whether it’s your mother, father, child, spouse, or other loved one, death leaves a painful void that words cannot well express. Even if that loved one’s death is expected the loss is still no less painful.
The experience of grief is personal. Your relationship with your loved one was unique, and so is your experience of their loss. No one else can fully understand what that loss means to you, or tell you how to feel or what to do at such a difficult time.
The experience of grief is passing. That does not mean you will forget your loved one. But it does mean that healing is possible. There is no right answer about how long you should feel grief, or how soon you take each next step in moving into the next stage in your life. But time, help, and God’s comfort can clearly sooth your troubled soul.
The fact that we feel grief so keenly is one more bit of evidence that we were not meant for death. God did not create us to live twenty, seventy, or even a hundred years, and then go away into nothingness. No – He created us for eternity. He created us to live forever!