A Time for Everything

The Byrds Turn Turn TurnThe Byrds sang it: “A time to every purpose under heaven.”

I wonder how many people who still sing Turn! Turn! Turn! realize that the lyrics were taken essentially word-for-word from the Bible, Ecclesiastes ch. 3. It talks about a truth that those of us who live in this super-charged ultra-fast over-connected society often forget.

As an OB-Gyn physician I rejoice when it’s a time to be born. But I struggle to not feel like a failure when it’s time for one of my patients, or worse yet a close friend or family member, to die.

I find myself looking for the time to laugh and dance. I struggle to embrace the time to weep and mourn.

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[Newsletter] A Streetcar Named Desire

Totally Free Ministries LogoWe need close intimate personal relationships. Our desires are strong, and they incorporate the physical, emotional, and spiritual parts of our being.

Desire is beautiful. Desire is dangerous.

If we ignore our desires, they don’t go away – they get stronger and go underground.

If we give in to our desires indescriminately, the objects of our desires may just end up destroying us.

How can we navigate our human desires and find their true home?

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HALT: Five Ways to Stay Filled Up

Toddler drinking water from hoseWe human beings are needy. It seems like we are always leaking and in need of getting filled up.

Our bodies need water, food, air, exercise, and rest. Disrupt the regular availability of any of these, and you won’t survive very long!

Our minds need stimulation, entertainment, perspective, feedback, humor, and rest. Mess with any of these for very long, and your mind will lose its resilience.

Our souls need communication, intimacy, encouragement, challenge, hope, meaning, depth, joy, and love. And when we don’t experience these, we go looking.

And it’s in the LOOKING that we can get into trouble.

Twelve-step programs have a phrase that illustrates this: Don’t get too Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired. HALT – when these needs are not met, you’re in danger! Your thinking gets cloudy, and you can easily reach for an unhealthy addiction.

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