10 Things To Do When You Feel Lonely

10 Things To Do When You Feel Lonely

Woman alone on couchMake friends with yourself; then you will never have to be lonely!

Sometimes it really is that simple. We do need people in our lives. But being alone does not have to mean feeling lonely. Your personality has a lot to say about your emotional state when you are by yourself. But it’s still your choice about how you deal with loneliness.

When I was a young woman I struggled with feeling terribly lonely. I could feel lonely even in a crowd. I felt like I didn’t have any friends, and was rarely invited to join others. Sometimes I would find a school or church event to go to just so I wouldn’t have to be alone. And yet being around people didn’t make me feel any better.

Changing my emotional habits took effort, but I learned that it IS possible. When you feel lonely, taking some specific action can change your whole emotional state. You DO have a choice in the matter! Over time, those actions may create new emotional habits, and you will feel entirely different about the times when you are alone.

Here are some things you can do when you feel lonely.

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10 Things A Woman Wants and Needs

Woman with ScarfFor husbands, boyfriends, and prospective boyfriends, a woman often presents a mystery. If you’re a guy, you probably would do just about anything to impress your lady love, or win her heart.

But do you know what she really wants?

And if you’re a woman, do you recognize what your heart really wants – and needs?

Sure, we’re all a little different. But in the deep parts of a woman’s soul most of us share these common needs. And yes, they are needs. Inside a woman’s heart is the need:

  1. To be wanted. She wants to be number One to somebody, to know that there’s nothing more important than her in someone else’s heart.
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Searching For The Fountain Of Youth

Fountain of YouthEven before Ponce de Leon spent his years searching Florida for the illusive fountain of youth, men and women have searched for ways to look and feel younger, and to keep from getting old. Promises of a return of vital strength, of younger looking brighter skin, or of reversing the aging process are almost guaranteed to sell nutritional supplements, beauty products, or health services.

Some would say our media-saturated culture glorifies youth at the expense of maturity. But might not those media messages be the result a deep-seated value system that we all share? We grasp at the raw strength, physical beauty, mental agility, and passion of youth. Most of us recognize that with maturity often comes wisdom, but we long for the freshness of youth.

Something in our soul understands that getting old, weak, and dependent is not our original destiny. Deep inside we sense that 70, 80, or even 90 years is not long enough.

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2 Lessons to Guarantee You Will Have a Positive Impact

Ripples in WaterPart of you really wants to make a difference. You want your life to count for something. You want the world – or at least some part of it – to be better because you were here. You want somebody – or many somebodies – to be happier, healthier, more whole as a result of your presence.

But how do you do that? In the middle of a busy life it can seem like most of what you do is fruitless. Much of your activity seems to make little impact.

You are probably already making more of a difference than you think. But here’s how to make sure your legacy is a lasting one.

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5 Ways to Know if Your Faith is Working

Woman on Church Pew by CrossYou go to church – or don’t. You have a Bible on the table and read it, sometimes. You pray – more than most, not as much as some. Your coworkers know you’re a Christian, and don’t seem to care too much. You don’t look or sound anything like Sam-or-Sally-SuperChristian, but that’s just not your personality. You believe God is real, but there are moments you do struggle with doubts about certain things.

Sometimes we all wonder if we’re doing this thing called the Christian life right. Even if you are certain of Jesus as your Savior, what kind of difference should that be making in your life now? Do you have to be “super-Christian” to be successful? How do you know?

When it comes to our relationship with God, checklists can be a little dangerous. He deals with each of us individually, and sometimes in very unique ways. His opinion is the only one that really counts. But a spiritual checkup every now and then is helpful.

Here are a few evaluation points that may help:

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