The Enormous Power of “I Don’t Care!”

The Enormous Power of “I Don’t Care!”

I Don't CareNext to “No” the most powerful sentence in the English language is “I don’t care.” It makes you downright dangerous!

Caring about someone, loving them, makes you vulnerable. And that’s a good thing. There will only be a few people around your death bed, and those people deserve your best. It’s worth sleepless nights, depleting your bank account, “wasted” time, forgiveness, and spending all the energy you have to invest in the few close relationships that matter most. About the people closest to me I DO care!

But just about everything else is small stuff. And if you care too much about the small stuff your resulting vulnerability will open you to people, circumstances, and decisions that will deplete you, harm you, and potentially destroy you.

  • If you care too much about what the critics say you’ll never say or do the things that will help those who can benefit most from your work.
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How to Prevent Weight Gain After Forty

How to Prevent Weight Gain After Forty

HELP on ScalesLove handles around the middle? Afraid to step on the scales? Putting on extra pounds is not just unpleasant; it’s also a danger to your health. It’s especially important to prevent weight gain after forty.

Weight gain after menopause increases a woman’s risk for breast cancer, diabetes, heart disease, and stroke. Most of this mid-life weight gain settles around the middle, and it’s that abdominal fat that is especially dangerous, at least as far as your health is concerned. Becoming unhealthy as one gets older is unfortunately what the majority of women experience.

Is it menopause? Nearly 90% of women put on extra pounds between 45 and 55. The decrease in estrogen and other ovarian hormones at menopause would seem to be a likely culprit. If that were the case, wouldn’t taking estrogen or other hormone therapy help with that weight gain?

If only it were that simple! Research shows that women who take estrogen therapy at menopause and those who don’t gain about the same amount of weight. Hormone therapy makes no significant difference. But what we do know is that the drop in estrogen changes the distribution of fat in your body. Whether or not you gain pounds, menopause tends to move fat from your hips to your abdomen.

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Marks on Your Spiritual Wall: Growing in Grace

Marks on Your Spiritual Wall: Growing in Grace

Mom measuring boysIf you were to walk into the home where our oldest grandson lives, you’d see a wall with lots of pencil marks on it. Beside each mark Mommy or Daddy has written a date. Andrew loves to look at the wall to see how much taller he has become every few months. And he loves to point out that fact to his proud grandparents as well.

Looking back at how much I’d grown was one of the most encouraging things to me during the early part of my Christian walk. God is the only One whose evaluation ultimately matters. But He has told us a lot about how much He wants us to grow, and what that looks like.

So how are you growing in grace? Where are your “marks on the wall”?

You go to church—or don’t. You have a Bible on the table and read it—sometimes. You pray—more than most, but not as much as some. Your coworkers know you’re a Christian and don’t seem to care too much. You don’t look or sound anything like Sally SuperChristian, but that’s just not your personality. You believe God is real, but there are moments when you struggle with doubts about certain things.

Do any of those things really matter? If you’re certain of Jesus as your Savior, what kind of difference should that be making in your life now? Do you have to be “super-Christian” to be successful?

When it comes to our relationship with God, checklists can be a little dangerous. He deals with each of us individually, and sometimes in very unique ways. But a spiritual checkup can help you put some “marks on the wall.”

Here are a few evaluation points to check:

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5 Tips For Growing Up

5 Tips For Growing Up

Growing up is a process. Have you ever grown up in some significant way when everything was easy?

Probably not.

There’s the cliché that says, “What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.” I don’t believe that’s always true. Sometimes trauma can stunt our growth: child abuse, rape, severe poverty, and others. There are probably many variables that determine how one responds: genetics, time, age, support, personality, and much more.

I DO know that the times when I’ve grown the most have definitely been some of the most difficult. That doesn’t mean to say I’ve grown from every problem! But if I hadn’t had real almost-overwhelming challenges at times I wouldn’t be who I am today.

Sometimes I feel like Einstein when a fire destroyed much of his work. Far from feeling devastated, he is reported to have said, “Now we can start over!”

So what can we do to turn a problem, a tragedy, a loss, a trauma into a growth experience? These tips can help make the difference in growing up.

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God In A Box

God In A Box

We so easily put God in a box. OK, so who’s right? Your pastor? The Pope? The head of some denomination? The group of church leaders when they vote? Which leaders?

Or perhaps each one of us is right in how we hear God for ourselves. He can talk to each one of us, right? So in effect, can each one of us hear differently, and still be right?

And what happens when you hear differently from me? Or one pastor hears differently from another? Or one group of church leaders does one thing in the name of God, and another group does something very different?

There are many examples of this kind of divisive religiosity, but one stands out in my mind. During the period of the US Civil War, both the Union and Confederate sides of the conflict appealed to Christianity and Scripture in support of their respective positions, including both slavery and anti-slavery beliefs. Both certainly could not be right!

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