There’s the saying, “Happy wife, happy life.” And as a husband you have a tremendous impact on your wife’s wellbeing. If your wife is not responding to what you’re doing now, perhaps it’s time for a change. Your wife needs very specific things from you, and when you provide them she will flourish.
Your wife is responsible for her own behavior; women can certainly behave badly too. But you are the husband. God has called you to lead. Your impact on your wife’s wellbeing is likely much greater than you realize.
For your own sake, pay attention to these 5 needs your wife has. These are needs that no one else can meet to the degree that you, as her husband, can. Meeting these needs may feel unnatural to you, but just do it. Your wife’s mental/emotional/physical/spiritual wellbeing, and the peace, intimacy, and love in your home, will dramatically improve as a result.
Non-sexual affectionate touch
Sad and lonely women write to me; “He can’t touch me without having an erection. I can’t get close to him.” “My husband has held me only twice in our twelve years of marriage.” “He never touches me, kisses me, or even holds my hand. I’m so hurt.”