The trash didn’t get taken out – again. His underwear is there on the floor – again. She was late getting ready – again. He didn’t listen – again. She made an excuse to say no – again. Should you have to put up with this?
Every marriage experiences mess-ups. It’s easy to get caught up in shame, blame, and misery. But taking the necessary steps after a mess-up has the potential to make your marriage stronger. What you’re working toward is really creating a new marriage.
Marriage is the union of two sinners. You can be sure your spouse will mess up; that’s what sinners do. And the same goes for you. Whether you knew better or not, you will fail your husband or wife in some way, perhaps in many ways. So what do you do if you messed up in your marriage?
Ask the wrong questions, and you’ll get answers that are misleading at best and possibly harmful. Ask better questions, and you’ll get much more helpful answers. There are some questions every married person should ask that can significantly change both your satisfaction and your success in your most important human relationship.