7 Secrets To Improved Sexual Intimacy With Your Spouse

Intimate CoupleYou’re married, but there’s not much fireworks between you any longer. Things are more than a little dry and stale, or even downright prickly. And you can’t seem to get on the same page about sexual intimacy.

He wants to, she doesn’t. She would like to, but he’s not interested. Or neither of you have even bothered to try for quite a long time. But now you’ve finally decided it’s time to do something different if you want your marriage to ever be any better.

If your marriage is good, these secrets will make it richer. And if your marriage is less than good, these secrets will give you a great chance to make things much better.

  1. Listen to each other. It’s been said that the true organ of intimacy is the ear. How many affairs have started with a conversation! If the fires have grown a little cold, some quality conversation, where you concentrate on listening to each other, is the best way to fan the coals into flames. You can talk about sex if you want. Here’s a list of some Conversation Starters if you need some ideas.
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12 Habits To Live Happy and Healthy in Just Minutes A Day

12 Habits To Live Happy and Healthy in Just Minutes A Day

Your daily habits determine your future.

Most of what we do each day we do automatically. Imagine how difficult life would be if every day you had to learn how to brush your teeth, drive to work, or use your cell phone all over again.

There are some things you cannot control. But most of your future you CAN control – by the choices you make today, and the habits you develop. Make certain that the things you do every day increase the chance for you to have the future you desire.

There are more than enough negative things to focus on, stress to worry about, and challenges to handle. Here are 12 habits that will keep the negative things from getting you down, and will go far toward giving you a future that is healthy and happy.

  1. Choose something positive. Consciously begin your day on the up-side. Read a Bible promise, an inspirational quote, or short devotional to get your soul on the right track. Email devotionals are free, such as Ransomed Heart, or a variety on YouVersion or Crosswalk.
  2. Move your body. Your body was made to move, and one of the best ways to stay young and healthy is to get some exercise – even for a few minutes a day. Do something you enjoy. Get a pedometer, of download an app such as Striiv or one from My Fitness Pal on your smartphone.
  3. Eat some fruits and vegetables. More is better: the one food group you want to eat more of rather than less. Fresher is better. Substitute fruits or veggies for some processed food, and you’re guaranteed to look and feel better.
  4. Get some sleep. Robbing sleep to work more, get more done, or even watch TV is a losing proposition. Even the Bible says so! (Psalms 127:2) Shut down at a given time each night. You’ll be more productive and much happier the next day.
  5. Say a sincere “Thank You.” Looking for something to say “Thank You” for not only improves your relationships with others, but it also puts you in a positive frame of mind. It helps you appreciate whatever is good in your life and world, even if much is negative.
  6. Throw something away. Our lives get cluttered so easily. Make a habit to find something that has outlived its usefulness, and discard it or give it away. It may be a receipt, empty box, household item, negative thought, or anything taking up space in your home or life.
  7. Feed your mind. Incorporate learning something every day. Turn off the TV and read a book. Join an online or in-person class. Research a new idea or skill. Practice something creative or different. Just a few minutes daily can add up to an entire education.
  8. Enjoy something natural. The sunrise, a cloud formation, a tree, some squirrels playing, a bird singing, a fountain or brook, the stars: wherever you live there is something of God’s creation you can stop, notice, and appreciate. It reminds you of the bigger world, and Who made it.
  9. Do something nice for someone. Looking beyond yourself is one of the surest ways to make you happier. Whether small or large, don’t end any day without focusing on someone else in some way. Write a caring email or make a phone call if you can’t do anything physical.
  10. Say “I Love You!” If you’re married, say it to your spouse OUT LOUD every day! The same for your children, if you have them. Tell God the same thing. And if you’re truly alone, still do your best to find someone to say “I love you!” to: it will help both you and them.
  11. Read something from the Bible. Your soul needs daily food. Whether or not your Daily Positive (#1) includes Scripture, take at least a few minutes (or longer when you can) to put some Bible verses into your heart. The Bible app is one easy way to do so if you don’t care to read more.
  12. Pray. This should be a habit that you incorporate many times each day. At the very least, bookend your day with prayer – at the beginning and the end. God wants to hear from you, and you need to hear from Him.

Regardless of how difficult your life is, incorporating these habits will make you happier and healthier now and in the future. None of them takes more than a few minutes a day, but they will end up adding years to your life, and life to your years.

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36 Ways To Tell Your Spouse “I Love You”

Old Couple TogetherWhether you’ve been married 25 days or 25 years, your spouse needs to hear you say “I love you!”

But men and women are different. And people have different Love Languages.

If you want your spouse to FEEL loved, it’s important you speak to them in the language they can hear.

How tragic it would be to find out years from now that although you love your spouse, neither of you feels loved by the other. You don’t want to end up living like roommates.

As the six-year-old girl said, “If you love someone, hurry up and show it!”

To find out how to say “I love you” in the language your spouse can understand, Gary Smalley’s classic 5 Love Languages can help.

But if you know your spouse at all, you can probably figure a lot of this out just by observing what’s important to him or her. The key is not how you want to say “I love you,” but how your spouse wants to hear it.

Here are a few ideas that may help you get started, for both wives and husbands.

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What the Bible Says About Health

I often see honest Christian people who are not at all healthy. Sometimes they become frustrated and discouraged, even wondering why God has not healed them. And sadly, too often they are experiencing the negative results of their lifestyle choices.

Some Christians have been criticized for not caring enough about their health, for being “so heavenly minded they are no earthly good.” Christian in general use tobacco and alcohol less than non-Christians, but then those who attend church regularly are more likely to be obese. Christians definitely have a mixed track record when it comes to a healthy lifestyle.

Let’s put one question behind us. Your eternal destiny is not dependent on your body mass index, whether your fingers are nicotine-stained, or what disease(s) you have or don’t have when you die. Where you spend eternity is based only on your relationship with God through His Son Jesus. We’re not talking heaven or hell when we talk about health here: we’re very much talking about earth.

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But there are some very big reasons Christians should care about their health. Many Scripture passages show that God is interested in your health. Paul wrote, “Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.” (1 Cor. 6:19,20)

A healthy lifestyle physically, mentally, and relationally affects your Christian life in many ways. When you’re healthy:

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What The Bible Says To A Woman Who Feels Unloved By Her Husband

What The Bible Says To A Woman Who Feels Unloved By Her Husband

Sometimes I feel like I just want to run away. He keeps me around for convenience, appearance, and sex, and I just can’t do it anymore.”

“He spends every evening in the basement, looking at other women on his computer. I have no marriage.”

“I suppose I should be happy. He provides well for me, and we’re doing God’s work. But he doesn’t love me. I feel so lonely.”

I often hear from women who are disappointed in their marriage. Their hearts are empty and sad. I also hear from men who feel like they can never do enough to make their wives happy, even if they try.

A woman’s heart is a delicate thing. Neglect to “feed” and care for it, and it will wither and shrivel up into nothing. Make too many withdrawals from it without making enough deposits, and it will soon become bankrupt. Bruise it, batter it, beat it up, and it will either go into hiding or morph into something ugly and destructive.

In God’s ideal world a woman would get many of her needs for intimacy, protection, challenge, and love met by her husband. And many women are blessed to have many of those needs met in their marriage now.

But when a woman feels unloved by her husband anything else good in life can feel rather meaningless. And it’s especially for you that we look into the Bible today.

Here are some messages from Scripture for you if you’re a woman who feels unloved in your marriage:

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