Getting Over A Bad Attitude

Bad AttitudeA bad attitude isn’t all in your head. Sometimes it’s very much in your body as well.

A bad attitude certainly spills over into your spirit. And it certainly affects the people around you also.

Choosing your attitude may seem impossible at first, but it’s a skill you can develop. A good attitude doesn’t mean denying the negative things in your life, family, or world. But it means you actively choose how you will think and act in relation to them.

One of the most powerful positive attitudes is hope. The Bible says we are saved by hope! (Romans 8:24) Science has been able to demonstrate the powerful positive effects of hope. Believing and expecting that something good can happen can block physical pain. Even a little hope causes the brain to release endorphins and enkephalins that can eliminate pain and provide a sense of well-being.[i] Hope can change the function of portions of the brain and nervous system, vascular system, gastrointestinal system, and your response to stress.

Hope, specifically, does not mean ignoring reality. Hope means looking clearly at the challenges you face, moving beyond the fear, and focusing on what you CAN change.

For example, in the face of cancer hope does not mean denying the diagnosis. It does mean understanding all you can about your illness, and grabbing hold of every available treatment (medical help, nutrition, prayer, etc). And hope may not always mean a cure; it may mean getting the most out of every day you have left on this earth.

When challenges come some people naturally feel more hopeful than others. Emotions can change slowly. But you can choose to focus on things you do have control over, on whatever is positive around you, and on the differences you can make in your world. Those things may seem small, but choosing to focus on them will have a positive impact on your physical and your mental health. You’ll feel better, and so will those around you!

So what does a biblical, godly attitude look like? Check these points:

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Five Do’s and Don’ts for Singles

The Single LifeIt’s not easy being single. Loneliness can make you vulnerable. If you do want a relationship, your efforts to develop one can feel frustrating or hopeless.

Maybe you’re single because you saw or experienced pain in other marriages you knew (such as your parents), and haven’t wanted to even consider the idea. Maybe you’re single because you got sexually involved in multiple relationships in the past and struggle now with guilt and wondering if anyone would want you. Maybe you’re single because you got out of a bad marriage, and now you’re saddled with all the baggage – both good and bad.

Or maybe you’re single just because – you’re single.

And why does everyone keep asking your relationship status anyway? Isn’t it enough to just be you?!

Remember that a bad marriage is so much worse than being single. If you don’t believe that, take a poll of your married friends. There are plenty of unhappily married people who would be glad to trade problems with you!

But knowing that doesn’t ease the loneliness you may feel, or answer the “Why” questions. So, what to do?

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A Different Response To Victoria Osteen’s Comment

Following JesusCyperspace has recently been filled with reaction to a comment by Victoria Osteen: “When we obey God … we’re doing it for ourself.” Most of the reaction among the rest of the Christian community has been strongly negative. Facebook posts have lampooned her. Other YouTube videos have been created expressing disgust. Victoria and Joel Osteen are no strangers to controversy, but this recent barrage has been particularly nasty.

I have never been to Lakewood. I do not watch Joel Osteen on TV. My comments are strictly theological.  I am not defending Victoria. I disagree with several aspects of their ministry. But I would like to offer an alternative way to think about this controversy.

Jesus said, “Follow Me. Keep My commandments.” (Matt. 16:24, John 14:15) There’s no if’s, and’s, or but’s about it.

However, Jesus understood motivation. He certainly promised good things to His followers.

Then Peter began to say to Him, “See, we have left all and followed You.” So Jesus answered and said, “Assuredly, I say to you, there is no one who has left house or brothers or sisters or father or mother or wife or children or lands, for My sake and the gospel’s, who shall not receive a hundredfold now in this time — houses and brothers and sisters and mothers and children and lands, with persecutions — and in the age to come, eternal life.” Mark 10:28-30

So here’s the thought. The important thing is that we obey God and follow Jesus. Period.

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7 Secrets To Improved Sexual Intimacy With Your Spouse

Intimate CoupleYou’re married, but there’s not much fireworks between you any longer. Things are more than a little dry and stale, or even downright prickly. And you can’t seem to get on the same page about sexual intimacy.

He wants to, she doesn’t. She would like to, but he’s not interested. Or neither of you have even bothered to try for quite a long time. But now you’ve finally decided it’s time to do something different if you want your marriage to ever be any better.

If your marriage is good, these secrets will make it richer. And if your marriage is less than good, these secrets will give you a great chance to make things much better.

  1. Listen to each other. It’s been said that the true organ of intimacy is the ear. How many affairs have started with a conversation! If the fires have grown a little cold, some quality conversation, where you concentrate on listening to each other, is the best way to fan the coals into flames. You can talk about sex if you want. Here’s a list of some Conversation Starters if you need some ideas.
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12 Habits To Live Happy and Healthy in Just Minutes A Day

12 Habits To Live Happy and Healthy in Just Minutes A Day

Your daily habits determine your future.

Most of what we do each day we do automatically. Imagine how difficult life would be if every day you had to learn how to brush your teeth, drive to work, or use your cell phone all over again.

There are some things you cannot control. But most of your future you CAN control – by the choices you make today, and the habits you develop. Make certain that the things you do every day increase the chance for you to have the future you desire.

There are more than enough negative things to focus on, stress to worry about, and challenges to handle. Here are 12 habits that will keep the negative things from getting you down, and will go far toward giving you a future that is healthy and happy.

  1. Choose something positive. Consciously begin your day on the up-side. Read a Bible promise, an inspirational quote, or short devotional to get your soul on the right track. Email devotionals are free, such as Ransomed Heart, or a variety on YouVersion or Crosswalk.
  2. Move your body. Your body was made to move, and one of the best ways to stay young and healthy is to get some exercise – even for a few minutes a day. Do something you enjoy. Get a pedometer, of download an app such as Striiv or one from My Fitness Pal on your smartphone.
  3. Eat some fruits and vegetables. More is better: the one food group you want to eat more of rather than less. Fresher is better. Substitute fruits or veggies for some processed food, and you’re guaranteed to look and feel better.
  4. Get some sleep. Robbing sleep to work more, get more done, or even watch TV is a losing proposition. Even the Bible says so! (Psalms 127:2) Shut down at a given time each night. You’ll be more productive and much happier the next day.
  5. Say a sincere “Thank You.” Looking for something to say “Thank You” for not only improves your relationships with others, but it also puts you in a positive frame of mind. It helps you appreciate whatever is good in your life and world, even if much is negative.
  6. Throw something away. Our lives get cluttered so easily. Make a habit to find something that has outlived its usefulness, and discard it or give it away. It may be a receipt, empty box, household item, negative thought, or anything taking up space in your home or life.
  7. Feed your mind. Incorporate learning something every day. Turn off the TV and read a book. Join an online or in-person class. Research a new idea or skill. Practice something creative or different. Just a few minutes daily can add up to an entire education.
  8. Enjoy something natural. The sunrise, a cloud formation, a tree, some squirrels playing, a bird singing, a fountain or brook, the stars: wherever you live there is something of God’s creation you can stop, notice, and appreciate. It reminds you of the bigger world, and Who made it.
  9. Do something nice for someone. Looking beyond yourself is one of the surest ways to make you happier. Whether small or large, don’t end any day without focusing on someone else in some way. Write a caring email or make a phone call if you can’t do anything physical.
  10. Say “I Love You!” If you’re married, say it to your spouse OUT LOUD every day! The same for your children, if you have them. Tell God the same thing. And if you’re truly alone, still do your best to find someone to say “I love you!” to: it will help both you and them.
  11. Read something from the Bible. Your soul needs daily food. Whether or not your Daily Positive (#1) includes Scripture, take at least a few minutes (or longer when you can) to put some Bible verses into your heart. The Bible app is one easy way to do so if you don’t care to read more.
  12. Pray. This should be a habit that you incorporate many times each day. At the very least, bookend your day with prayer – at the beginning and the end. God wants to hear from you, and you need to hear from Him.

Regardless of how difficult your life is, incorporating these habits will make you happier and healthier now and in the future. None of them takes more than a few minutes a day, but they will end up adding years to your life, and life to your years.

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