Help For Connecting You With God

Help For Connecting You With God

[guestpost]The following is taken from the Introduction to my book Live Healthy, Live Whole. Check the bottom of this post for the special introductory pricing information.[/guestpost]

Nervous WomanMarilyn would have preferred to be almost anywhere else that day. She had faced similar medical issues in the past, and the situation had never ended well. She had known the problem might return but had hoped there would be another explanation this time. The physical symptoms were unpleasant, but the fear, anxiety, and guilt were so much worse.

At my first meeting with Marilyn there were plenty of tears. We talked about the results of her ultrasound, and about the minor surgery she would need. She told me about the abuse she had suffered as a teenager, her sexual indiscretions as a young woman, and her strong desire now to become a mother. Her church, her mother, her sister, and her boyfriend all had different ideas about what she should do now, and that confusion only made her anxiety worse.

I sat on my little rolling stool looking across at Marilyn and realizing how anxious, afraid, and even alone she felt.

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How to “Make Up” When You’ve Hurt Your Spouse

How to “Make Up” When You’ve Hurt Your Spouse

As uncomfortable as it may be, saying “I’m sorry” for a small thing to someone you may never see again really isn’t all that hard. The stakes are much higher when you’ve hurt the one you promised to love, honor, and cherish for the rest of your life. Making things right with your spouse is more difficult, but it’s a skill you’ll need to learn if you want a long and healthy marriage.

Unless you’re ready for translation, you and I each do things that hurt those closest to us. Sometimes it’s an honest mistake, completely without intention to cause harm. Other times we cause harm through carelessness or weakness, or because we’re hurting ourselves. And then there are times we know we’re doing something that will hurt him or her, but we do it anyway.

In the end what matters is that you caused them pain. Ouch! It’s easy to get defensive and try to explain away what you did, but that only drives you farther apart. If you want your marriage to survive you need to do everything possible on your end to repair the relationship. It starts with you.

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The ONE THING To Change In Your Diet For Good Health

The ONE THING To Change In Your Diet For Good Health

Eat Real FoodYou are what you eat – literally. We as human beings love our food. Think of all the money being made on cookbooks, food shows on TV, diets, dietary products and programs, and advice on what to eat and not eat.

With all that information, you would think we would be a better nourished society. We may be overfed, but we are also seriously undernourished. Empty calories – food with poor nutritional content – makes up the majority of what most of us eat. And it’s killing us.

Scientists estimate that at the last turn of the century (2000), the combination of a poor diet and lack of physical activity was the underlying cause in 16% of deaths in the United States, and many believe that the true number may be even higher. Unhealthy eating can kill you! By some estimates, the number of deaths caused by obesity is now greater than the number caused by tobacco.

Scientists have debated what it is about diet that impacts health most. Is it sugar, fat, sodium, animal protein (or lack thereof), or something else? When looking at all the eating plans and diets promoted for good health, there is a clear winner: REAL FOOD! There’s no other way to interpret the balance of the scientific evidence.     Tweet that.

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Three Kinds of People, and How to Tell Them Apart

Three Kinds of People, and How to Tell Them Apart

People can make or break you. One key relationship may decide whether you experience success or failure, happiness or misery. Get the “people” thing wrong, and nothing else in your life will go right.

But not everybody is your friend. And sometimes even your friends can be difficult. That’s why understanding the three primary kinds of people you will encounter during your life can make all other decisions much easier.

Here are those three kinds of people, and how you should relate to them:

1. People you can trust. These people are not perfect, but you know they’re on your side. They care about your best interests. They aren’t bent on hiding things from you, and when they cause pain they are willing to do the necessary work to repair things. They may criticize you, but it’s clear they do so only in order to help you become better.

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Six Things I’d Say To My Younger Self

Six Things I’d Say To My Younger Self

Advice-for-my-younger-selfI just had a birthday. At my age that’s both good news and bad news. I’m glad I’m still here. (As someone said, it sure beats the alternative!) But it does give an opportunity to look both backward and forward, and think about what I wish I had known when I was younger.

You can probably look back and see some things you wish you had known also. The purpose of looking back isn’t to be filled with regrets, but to let past experiences, mistakes, and pain become valuable for the future. In God’s economy nothing need be lost. Every problem, every missed opportunity, every negative experience, every bad choice can provide fuel to learn and grow. That’s just plain common sense, and it’s also the message of the gospel. In God’s hands all our problems can be transformed into character and beauty.

Here are some things I’d say to my younger self if I could:

  • Don’t worry about what other people think.
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