Caring for Your Heart When Your Spouse Won’t Connect

Caring for Your Heart When Your Spouse Won’t Connect

You were created for intimacy. You probably got married expecting that doing so would fulfill your needs for connection, love, sex, and the other aspects of intimacy. When your spouse carries sexual baggage your expectations are likely to be disappointed, and there’s more pain than intimacy between you. How do you care for your heart when your spouse won’t connect?

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Hiding and Intimacy: They Cannot Coexist

Hiding and Intimacy: They Cannot Coexist

Are you aware of how you are hiding? You are hiding, you know, whether you think you are or not. That is, unless you’ve found complete and total transformation in Jesus and are fully formed in His image. Otherwise, you’re hiding. Hiding and intimacy cannot coexist. And you need intimacy. So it’s time to stop hiding. But how do you do that?

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Sex Before Marriage: What I Did Right – And Wrong

Sex Before Marriage: What I Did Right – And Wrong

I did it right. I made it. I didn’t have sex before marriage. And it was a long wait, too.

And I did it very wrong. “Not having sex before marriage” was not because of any superior virtue on my part. Oh yes, I’d heard all the church stuff about waiting for marriage, and I planned to wait. But I was not tending to my heart. It took me a long time to figure out that while behaviors do have consequences, sex is about so much more than behaviors. And the stuff going on under the surface in my heart was seriously messed up. 

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Nine Possible Reasons Your Spouse Doesn’t Want to Sleep With You

Nine Possible Reasons Your Spouse Doesn’t Want to Sleep With You

Sex and intimacy (they are related, but not the same!) is a top area of conflict in many marriages. Trying to demand sex from your spouse, or giving up and withdrawing yourself, are not good options. As with all marriage problems, you’ll get farther if you take time to understand something of the Why behind the issue, the reasons your spouse doesn’t want to sleep with you.

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Single Christian, Are You Struggling with Sex and Intimacy?

Single Christian, Are You Struggling with Sex and Intimacy?

If you’re a Christian and you’ve been in church, you’ve probably heard the message “sex is for marriage.” But you’re not married right now. So what are you supposed to do with your sexual drives? What if you’ve “messed up?” If you’re struggling with sex and intimacy as single Christian, you’re not alone.

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