Into every life some difficult people must come. These are the people who make you feel small, stupid, and powerless. They’re the ones you assume you should have a relationship with, but you cringe every time you come in contact, or communicate with them. Somehow they have a way of making you feel like YOU are the crazy one. But somehow you still have to deal with difficult people.
Your difficult person might be your boss, your coworker, a sibling, an in-law, or even a parent. It might be a friend or classmate you developed a connection with before realizing how difficult the relationship would become. Whoever it is, they feel like a thorn in your side and you wish they would just go away.
A difficult person is not simply someone who needs your help. Here are some characteristics of a truly difficult person:
- Refuses to take responsibility for their own life, feelings, and behavior
- Turns simple challenges into major drama
- Continually expects you to rescue them from their own problems
- Makes you feel guilty if you don’t do what they demand
- Blames you for any problems in the relationship, while demanding you stay connected
- Responds to any help you provide with a demand for more, even if they voice appreciation at first
- Has an answer for everything, and makes sure you realize that you don’t
- Makes you feel confused, anxious, or “crazy” after interacting with them