The problem isn’t always the real problem. Taking Tylenol when you have a fever doesn’t cure the infection. Mowing the grass doesn’t take out the weeds. It was the under-the-surface part of the iceberg that sank the Titanic. You need a cure, not a Band-Aid. Whatever metaphor you choose, problems won’t get better unless you get to the stuff underneath the surface.
The little olivewood creche was special to me ever since I had purchased it at a little tourist shop in Bethlehem. Travel and several moves later it was badly broken, not much more than a pile of wooden pieces. But I couldn’t get rid of it.
How’s your sex life with your spouse? If this topic leaves you frustrated, angry, lonely, or feeling rejected, you’re in good company. I hear from husbands and wives every day who struggle here. But the key to better intimacy with your spouse is not fighting, begging, manipulating, or pulling away. And even if intimacy is “good,” it can get better!