A marriage that’s damaged through infidelity. A public figure who betrays the trust of those they lead. A pastor caught in sexual or financial indiscretions. Is restoration possible? What does restoration look like? What does it take to be restored?
If you’ve been mowing the weeds of troubling, unwanted, or ungodly sexual thoughts or behaviors and they keep growing back, it’s time to deal with the roots. “Trying harder” to control lust with behavior modification and accountability may be helpful as far as it goes. But for many people, it’s just not working. You may need to deal much more deeply with the roots of sexual “stuff.”
How is intimacy going for you? It is good, healthy, nourishing? Or have your attempts at intimacy resulted in only frustration, darkness, and pain? Do you understand what it takes to experience intimacy? Do you know why God invented sex?
If your heart whispers – or screams – “I hate sex”, you’re not alone. That might sound as strange as “I hate food.” (That can happen, but that’s another story.) There are plenty of reasons you might hate sex. And understanding why will make a difference.
Marriage is the union of two sinners. You can be sure your spouse will mess up; that’s what sinners do. And the same goes for you. Whether you knew better or not, you will fail your husband or wife in some way, perhaps in many ways. So what do you do if you messed up in your marriage?