Some people get stuck in the past. They respond as though the trauma or other challenge they experienced decades ago just happened yesterday. Some people focus on today; “If it feels good, do it!” And some people are always worrying about or planning for tomorrow, never enjoying today. So which do you spend most effort on between past, present, and future?
Ask the wrong questions, and you’ll get answers that are misleading at best and possibly harmful. Ask better questions, and you’ll get much more helpful answers. There are some questions every married person should ask that can significantly change both your satisfaction and your success in your most important human relationship.
What does the self-talk in your head sound like? What do you tell yourself? Perhaps like so many people you keep second-guessing yourself, wondering whether you’ve got what it takes. The self-defeating messages keep screaming and you feel paralyzed. Is there an antidote to self-doubt?
If you are the same person tomorrow as you are today, your life will pretty much be the same as it is now. If the only thing that changes is that you’ve been breathing for another day, another year, you’ll simply be where you now – only older. To experience a different future, you will need to become a different person.
