The Exhilarating Freedom NOT To Care

I Dont CareHave you ever come to the point where you don’t care? It’s one of the most powerful places you can be. And it’s exhilarating!

This is not about not wanting what is best for your loved ones, or not wanting to be successful. It’s about getting rid of the chains that your own fears create in business, personal relationships, and even your spiritual life.

It’s possible to care too much. Becoming too invested in the outcome puts you in a very vulnerable position, clouds your perspective, and removes all your negotiating power.

  • If you want a specific car or house too much you may agree to a significantly higher price than necessary.
  • If you have your heart set on a particular job position you may agree to terms that make your future much more difficult than it needs to be.
  • If you worry excessively over what people will think your judgment will be clouded in leadership and making difficult decisions.
  • If you want a relationship with a certain someone at any cost you will be blind to danger signs in their behavior and character.

This is a spiritual principle as well.

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“God Is Your Father” – Good News or Bad?

Father Teaching Son BaseballIf you’ve gone to church or read the Bible you’ve surely heard that God is your Father. You’re supposed to feel safe and secure knowing that. The thought of God as your Father is supposed to make you want to run into His arms with joy, knowing He will handle all of your problems.

But does it really make you feel that way?

Your mental picture of God probably looks very much like your earthly father. Sadly the idea of “father” is not a positive one for many, and that can create a major stumbling block to a relationship with God.

What was your relationship like with your father? What did you have to do to get his attention? What kind of attention did he give you? Were you afraid of him? Was he proud of you, or ashamed of you? Was he absent or distant? If he disciplined you, was it with violence or cruel criticism? How did you feel when you were around him?

Just reading those questions, can you see how your relationship with your earthly father – or lack thereof – has affected your relationship with God?

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5 Laws You CANNOT Make

5 Laws You CANNOT Make

Laws and GavelOne would think that legislators couldn’t come up with any more laws regulating anything else.

Until they do!

Are there any limits, any laws you cannot make? Everything we do, every activity we touch, has laws controlling it: How fast you can drive. How big the letters on employment posters must be. The specific wording on cigarette packs. The language on food labels. How many minutes a school day includes. The size of shampoo bottle you can carry on an airplane.

Those laws, rules, and regulations we’ve become accustomed to. I’m all for public safety, and perhaps the majority of these laws are truly beneficial. But then we get to some laws that are truly pushing the edge of sanity: How large a soda you can sell/buy. How much profit certain companies can make. What kind of contraception you have to pay for – for someone else.

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5 Times to NOT Care What Anyone Thinks

5 Times to NOT Care What Anyone Thinks

Happy FarmerI might not say it in quite those words, but it’s really true: “I don’t care what you think!” In fact it HAS to be true, or I’m no good to you or anybody else.

For a people-pleasing person like me, that conclusion is a hard one to come to. I learned very well how to please professors, bosses, and other superiors. I learned how to read the reaction of patients and respond in ways that they could understand. Most people liked me.

But I was comparatively useless.

It’s my unique understanding that makes me most valuable. And it’s YOUR unique life experience and perspective that someone else – or the world – needs. If you care too much what others think of you, your ideas, or your way of doing things, you won’t be any good to anyone.

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Steps to Forgiveness

Steps to Forgiveness

If you are ever going to be healthy, you will need to learn to forgive.

Holding on to wrongs done to you will eat away at your soul, and eventually your body and mind.

We have heard about forgiveness from preachers, and well we should. But I believe we need to hear more about forgiveness from doctors. We are finding increasing evidence that unforgiveness may lead to high blood pressure, coronary heart disease, anxiety/insomnia, pain syndromes, and perhaps immune system disorders and some cancers.

Have you ever met an older person who is bitter and unhappy, with a shriveled-up body and soul? Don’t let that happen to you!

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