Doctor, Doctor: Your Family of Origin

Three GenerationsYou can’t choose your parents. Or your brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, and cousins. If your family of origin was reasonably healthy you probably don’t think much about how you choose to relate to them. You look forward to family gatherings, and keep in touch between times together.

There is always some tension as young people grow up and leave home, but healthy families celebrate such transitions. While still connected, junior develops a life of his or her own. And you’re at least somewhat proud of your parents and the legacy they left you.

But not all families are so healthy. It seems some significant measure of dysfunction is the norm in most families. Volumes have been written on the topic, and the mental health field has provided numerous careers devoted to helping those from unhealthy families learn to function better now.

Growing up in a home with alcohol, drug use, rage, criminal behavior, or violence leaves permanent marks on your soul.

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Steps to Forgiveness

Steps to Forgiveness

If you are ever going to be healthy, you will need to learn to forgive.

Holding on to wrongs done to you will eat away at your soul, and eventually your body and mind.

We have heard about forgiveness from preachers, and well we should. But I believe we need to hear more about forgiveness from doctors. We are finding increasing evidence that unforgiveness may lead to high blood pressure, coronary heart disease, anxiety/insomnia, pain syndromes, and perhaps immune system disorders and some cancers.

Have you ever met an older person who is bitter and unhappy, with a shriveled-up body and soul? Don’t let that happen to you!

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