Your spouse cheated – emotionally or physically. You found pornography on their smartphone. Your spouse abuses alcohol or drugs, is physically or verbally abusive, spends money you don’t have, or flies into a rage or cuts you down verbally without warning. You cannot trust they will do what they say or be where they say they will be. Promises are not kept. There is no trust in your marriage.
How are you supposed to live with someone you cannot trust?
Love is to be given freely, unconditionally. You cannot earn true love, control it, or pay for it.
But trust is different. Trust must be earned. Trust that is given indiscriminately is foolish at best and often destructive. Trust is fragile and can be lost in a moment. Rebuilding trust is enormously difficult, and is much more costly than building it originally. Trust is priceless.
So what are you to do when trust has been broken? Is there any hope? Is it ever possible to move on?
Rebuilding trust in marriage can be done. It takes both partners’ investment to make it work, and it takes time. But this article is especially about your own heart in the process. Here are 5 important steps to take when there is no trust in your marriage.