Your spouse is messing up BAD. He/she is having an affair, getting drunk, hiding out-of-control spending, using pornography, or engaging in some other destructive behavior. Some of the tapes in your head, and perhaps Christian friends who know, may be saying, “Forgive them. Let the past be the past, and move on.” But there are some things forgiveness does not do for your marriage. There’s more that’s needed.