5 Ways To Connect With Your Husband

Couple TogetherYou wake up one day and realize you don’t feel like a wife at all. You feel more like a roommate. Or worse. If it wasn’t for the band on your finger, or perhaps the children you share, you would be just as satisfied NOT being Mrs. …. And wouldn’t life be much less complicated?

OUCH! If you feel that disconnected from your husband, it’s time to take action. The alternative is a sure death of your marriage.

Perhaps you would say your marriage is already dead. Only God knows whether that’s completely true. But remember, God has a habit of resurrecting dead things. It’s just possible that your decisive action now could be the means God uses to make your marriage alive again.

Here are 5 actions you can take that have a good chance of opening the connection between you and your husband again. You can’t control the response on his end. But why not give it a try?

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What A Christian Does When Faced With Evil

Spiritual WarfareA lot of bad things are happening in this world. And that’s nothing new. Right now we’re hearing a lot about the atrocities ISIS is perpetrating on anyone who does not agree with their specific radical ideology. But ISIS is only the latest and currently most visible expression of evil.

Any list of expressions of evil runs the risk of leaving out particularly heinous varieties. But here are a few examples:

  • Human sex trafficking
  • Violence against Christians in the Middle East, Africa, China, etc.
  • Ethnic violence in various world regions
  • Race-based violence
  • Violent bullying
  • Extreme poverty
  • Extreme corporate greed and exploitation
  • Violence against women, children, and even animals

My personal view is that righteous governments have a critical role to play in keeping evil in check. That truth is a Biblical value. (See Romans 13:1-5)

But this is not about political views or governmental responsibility. Instead, it’s about how you and I as individual Christians should respond when we become aware of evil, either in our own sphere of influence or in a larger context.

Here are a few things we can know for sure:

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How to Pray When You Don’t Know How

How to Pray When You Don’t Know How

Child PrayingYou talk with your family and friends. You send text messages, write emails, and post updates on social media. You make phone calls, and perhaps even make presentations at school or at work.

But when it comes to talking with God, you’re all tongue-tied. You can’t think of a thing to say. It feels awkward.

The truth is, you can pray anywhere, any time, for any reason. You can pray out loud or silently, alone or with others, long or short, standing, kneeling, with hands raised, or curled up in a ball in tears.

Perhaps you’re not used to praying much. And even the most “spiritual” of us may sometimes feel at a loss in knowing how to approach God when things are tough. Here are some simple steps to help you get started, or get you out of a “funk” in your prayer life.

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10 Things You Can (and Can’t) Expect In A Good Marriage

10 Things You Can (and Can’t) Expect In A Good Marriage

With all the destructive marriages out there, is it any wonder that some young people are having second thoughts about getting married at all? Is “happily ever after” ever possible? Is “happily married” just a cruel joke? What CAN you expect in a “good” marriage?

Many things go into the success (or lack thereof) of a marriage: communication, compatibility, expectations, outside support, commitment, and more.

I think it’s enlightening to hear couples who have been successfully married for several decades talk about things such as how they handle conflict, how they care for each other, and the willingness to persevere even if things become difficult. Without fail, such couples display a deep commitment and willingness to care for each other.

But what can you reasonably expect in a “happy” marriage? How do you know when you have one?

First, here are 7 things you CANNOT expect:

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2 Attitudes About People That Will Make You Miserable

2 Attitudes About People That Will Make You Miserable

People I Can't Stand!

Charles M. Schulz, Peanuts, Nov 12, 1959

In a classic Peanuts cartoon Linus wants to be a doctor. The always negative Lucy says he could never be a doctor because he doesn’t love mankind.

“I love mankind,” Linus retorts. “It’s PEOPLE I can’t stand!”

Do you ever feel like Linus? Having good relationships with people may seem like a nice idea, but sometimes you just can’t stand them.

Like them or lump them, you can’t get away from people. Learning how to deal with people may be one of the most important things affecting your quality of life.

We have a lot more control over the quality of our relationships than we may think. Whether you’re a social butterfly or hardly ever speak a word to another human being, your life involves people. And if you don’t get this part of your lifestyle right, you’re doomed to be forever miserable.

In all your relationships there are two bad attitudes about people that are guaranteed to make you miserable and unhappy. Here they are.

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