How to Disinfect Your Shame

How to Disinfect Your Shame

We are all wounded. Life happens to us. People hurt us. And we hurt ourselves. But when the infection of shame sets in the pain of those wounds can become unbearable and permanent.

Have you ever wondered why some people seem to function so well after even serious trauma, while others who suffered the same indignity seem permanently paralyzed? Wounds such as child abuse, domestic violence, mental illness, marital infidelity, business failure, abortion, or addiction are painful. Always. But some people overcome them, heal from the wounds, and move on. Others seem stuck as though the wound happened just yesterday.

The difference is shame. Healing doesn’t happen once shame infects those wounds.

As a physician I sometimes must treat a patient whose surgical wound has become infected. Those wounds are incredibly painful, and they won’t heal until the infection is eliminated.

Shame is like that infection. And you’ll only heal from the wounds others have caused you and that you’ve caused yourself when you bring your shame into the light.                  Tweet that.

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30 Things To Be Grateful For

30 Things To Be Grateful For

HappySeniorCoupleLife is difficult. Bad things happen, and challenges come every day. One of the best ways to meet those challenges with resilience, courage, and hope is to maintain an underlying attitude of gratitude.

You know you SHOULD be grateful. The Bible says, “In everything give thanks.” (1 Thessalonians 5:18) And you really want to. But in the midst of problems it can be difficult to feel grateful.

It can help to step back and think about the good things you’ve been given. Here are a number of things you can be grateful for:

  1. Your children or grandchildren (some people don’t have any children)
  2. Your spouse (would you rather be single??)
  3. Your freedom (being single is not all bad)
  4. Your home (some people are homeless)
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7 Ways You Can Take Charge of Your Mental Health

7 Ways You Can Take Charge of Your Mental Health

Mental HealthWe each have our bag of mental challenges to deal with. Some of us have greater emotional vulnerabilities than others. But it’s still YOU who are in charge – of your mind, your emotions, and your mental health.

If you have the intellectual capacity to be reading this right now, you’ve got what it takes to take charge of your mental health. Being emotionally vulnerable doesn’t make you a victim; it just means you have to take extra care of your mind. You really can take steps to overcome whatever challenges you face, become mentally and emotionally fit, and find enjoyment, meaning, and hope in this life.

Here are 7 definite things you can do:

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12 Reasons You Could Be Depressed

12 Reasons You Could Be Depressed

Depressed ManEverybody has a down day occasionally. Our emotions are slippery things, and some people have a more volatile emotional life than others. If you can understand what’s getting you down, perhaps you can do something about it.

The human mind responds to stress in many different ways. Your thinking and emotions are affected by what’s going on in your physical body, by memories and outside circumstances, by the people around you, and even by your spiritual life. If one of these areas is unhealthy or stressed at a given time, a little stress in another area may be enough to push your emotions over the hill.

If you’re feeling down, especially if it’s out of proportion to any obvious outward stress you’re experiencing, consider whether any of these are reasons you could be depressed:

  1. Lack of sleep. If you’re physically tired, take a nap or put the problem on hold until after a good night’s sleep. My husband has often put me to bed when I’ve felt overwhelmed and emotional in the evening, knowing I’ll feel better and see things clearly the next morning.
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Who Should You Ask For Help

Who Should You Ask For Help

Hands Reaching OutWhen you’re successful at doing it all on your own you’re left with feelings of accomplishment and pride. More often, however, you can’t do it all on your own. And then you’re faced with a very big question; where do I go to get some help?

Who you ask for help makes a big difference in whether or not you’ll have a good outcome. I once spent a considerable amount of time trying to get help from someone who was available and supportive. In the end, however, the “help” turned out to be terribly expensive both financially and personally. And I needed help to get over the “help!”

If you need your windows replaced or your lawn mowed you go to someone who has experience and expertise in that specific area. It doesn’t matter as much whether they’re a believer in Jesus, or how they treat their spouse.

But if you need help with your character in some way, it’s a different story.

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