Sex Before Marriage: What I Did Right – And Wrong

Sex Before Marriage: What I Did Right – And Wrong

I did it right. I made it. I didn’t have sex before marriage. And it was a long wait, too.

And I did it very wrong. “Not having sex before marriage” was not because of any superior virtue on my part. Oh yes, I’d heard all the church stuff about waiting for marriage, and I planned to wait. But I was not tending to my heart. It took me a long time to figure out that while behaviors do have consequences, sex is about so much more than behaviors. And the stuff going on under the surface in my heart was seriously messed up.  

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Ignore This if Your Love Life is Perfect

Ignore This if Your Love Life is Perfect

Your love life is perfect? Great! You can ignore the rest of this message if:

  • You’re experiencing beautiful regular intimacy, completely with your spouse if married, or authentically with others if you’re not married
  • You have no unhealed sexual baggage from your past
  • You completely understand and are practicing the kind of sexual integrity and wholeness God intended you to have
  • Your sexual story has been completely dealt with, healed, and transformed
  • Your intimacy with God is satisfying and complete

But if that’s not you, you need this! 

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Uprooting Why You Feel Unhappy in Your Marriage

Uprooting Why You Feel Unhappy in Your Marriage

Every marriage has challenges. It wouldn’t make sense to expect the union of two different human beings to proceed without conflict. But that very conflict can be very useful – if you look under the surface. A hugely important question to ask as such times is Why. It will help so much to understand the roots of why you feel unhappy in your marriage.

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How Detachment from your Spouse Makes Your Marriage Better

How Detachment from your Spouse Makes Your Marriage Better

As with everything good that God created, the enemy has marred and distorted God’s statement, “they shall become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24) When working as God intended, that is a picture of beautiful intimacy between husband and wife, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. But there is also a critically important sense in which detachment from your spouse makes your marriage better.

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How to Stay Resilient During a Blue Holiday Season

How to Stay Resilient During a Blue Holiday Season

Holidays are supposed to be “happy and bright,” right? But every year I hear from people for whom the holiday season is anything but that. This year, 2020, there are even more reasons to feel blue; a COVID-19 pandemic, a contentious political season, economic uncertainty. And you could add to that list for yourself. But it’s possible to stay resilient even during a blue holiday season.

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