Whether you’re a New Year’s Resolutions person or not, the science is clear that defining clear goals makes it more likely you will reach them. Have you considered some relationship goals for your marriage for 2020?
When we surveyed hundreds of couples young and old about what they wanted in their relationship, by far the most common thing was better communication. Even more than sex or spiritual connection or finances. All those things are important, of course! But communication is the door to intimacy and all other good things.
How’s your sex life with your spouse? If this topic leaves you frustrated, angry, lonely, or feeling rejected, you’re in good company. I hear from husbands and wives every day who struggle here. But the key to better intimacy with your spouse is not fighting, begging, manipulating, or pulling away. And even if intimacy is “good,” it can get better!
Marriage affects your wellbeing. If your relationship is healthy you are happier, healthier, and generally live a longer more productive life. If your relationship is unhealthy your physical, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing is at risk. The stakes are too high to settle for a miserable marriage.