She wanted to serve God with all her heart. She also loved her husband, and wanted to do what it took to make her difficult marriage better. But she struggled to know how to do both. “God is supposed to be first, right? Then how can I still be a good wife?” she asked me.
I know some single women (perhaps men too – they just don’t talk to me as much) who seem to feel and act as though their singleness makes them a little more holy. They take Paul’s words in 1 Corinthians 7:32-34 as meaning that God in some way thinks more highly of unmarried people because they have more “freedom” to devote themselves to His work without the “distractions” of marriage and family.
Others in the church act as though God’s ideal is for people to be married, and you haven’t quite lived up to that ideal if you’re still single. There’s a heavy focus on marriage and family in many churches. Perhaps that’s a good thing, in light of how the decline in the family may have led directly to the decline of Christianity in western culture.
So, which is it? Is being single better? Is married better? Which pleases God more?