Where did you first learn about it? Was it in a class in school? From classmates, or older kids in the neighborhood? From the internet? Perhaps you’re one of those who was blessed to have parents, or a church youth leader, who fostered healthy conversations about sex. Or perhaps instead you learned from older relatives or others who harmed you through molestation, abuse, pornography, or other sexual exploitation. And then there’s the religious legalism that may have made sex a taboo and dirty subject for you. Perhaps you need to re-learn about sex and intimacy.
A marriage that’s damaged through infidelity. A public figure who betrays the trust of those they lead. A pastor caught in sexual or financial indiscretions. Is restoration possible? What does restoration look like? What does it take to be restored?
Almost every believer would say that God cares about your physical body. But why? Isn’t your body going to die? Many would say that your body isn’t the real YOU; the real YOU is the spiritual core of who you are. So why should it matter what you do with your body as a Christian?
If you’ve been mowing the weeds of troubling, unwanted, or ungodly sexual thoughts or behaviors and they keep growing back, it’s time to deal with the roots. “Trying harder” to control lust with behavior modification and accountability may be helpful as far as it goes. But for many people, it’s just not working. You may need to deal much more deeply with the roots of sexual “stuff.”