Something is stressing you out. As hard as you try, your anxiety or depression seems to be eating you alive. You keep falling into the same sexual sin over and over again, and the shame seems too heavy to bear. Perhaps your marriage is simply miserable, and you see no way out. You need help, but it seems you can’t talk to anyone.
Some suffering is unnecessary. Suffering that we bring on ourselves through our sin and brokenness means that if our actions change, our suffering can change. But not all suffering is “unnecessary.” How do you handle the suffering you cannot avoid?
Feeling isolated, alone, or lonely is a common struggle for singles. And you may imagine that finding a boyfriend/girlfriend and then getting married will solve that problem. (Talk to married people; that’s not necessarily true!) Connecting with others when you’re single can feel difficult.
Every marriage experiences mess-ups. It’s easy to get caught up in shame, blame, and misery. But taking the necessary steps after a mess-up has the potential to make your marriage stronger. What you’re working toward is really creating a new marriage.