Christianity

A Birthday Gift for Jesus

A few years ago a friend shared with me an important part of how she celebrates Christmas every year. When…

Why It’s Not Really a Sex Problem

Behaviors matter. Behaviors have consequences. And sexual behaviors especially have consequences. But for those who are struggling here, putting your…

What Were You Even Created For?

If you woke up this morning feeling that everything in your world is better-than-good and you’re fully satisfied, this article…
Man's hand reaching toward the light. You were created for intimacy.

Why God Created You for Intimacy

There’s something in the human heart that craves connection. We sense, perhaps unconsciously, that we are created for intimacy. That…

The Baby Who Changed Everything

It’s almost Christmas. Children are eying presents under the tree. Adults are perhaps both tired and expectant. Church volunteers are…

Two Questions God Loves to Answer

God hears our prayers. And there are many different kinds of prayers; intercession, thanksgiving, repentance, asking for needs, spiritual warfare…

Is God Disappointed in You?

How does God feel about you? (We’re using human words to talk about God; that’s troublesome. But stick with me.)…

Why Free Will?

Couldn’t God have created us all to automatically love Him? Why did sin ever come into existence? Why free will…

The View from the Top

Perspective matters. You know that. A good leader regularly reminds herself and those she leads of the bigger picture, especially…

El Roi: The God Who Sees Me

You carefully curate the pictures you upload to social media. You want to look your best. Or perhaps you are…

Why Can’t I Stop Sinning?

You’re still frequently angry and bitter. Curse words are still coming out of your mouth. You keep satisfying your sexual…

How I Decided to Marry a Divorced Man

Remarriage after divorce is one of those topics that can make otherwise “good” Christians become prickly, self-righteous, or downright vindictive.…

Love is NOT All You Need

If you’re over a certain age perhaps you can hear it in your head even now: “All you need is…

A Cure, not a Band-Aid

The problem isn’t always the real problem. Taking Tylenol when you have a fever doesn’t cure the infection. Mowing the…

God Does Not Work Alone

God can and does work any way He chooses. But God did not create you to need only Him. That…

Relationship Habits

Like locking the door behind you when you enter your home or brushing your teeth before going to bed, relationship…
Is my marriage toxic?

Is My Marriage Toxic?

How bad is bad enough? When you are unhappily married that can be a difficult question. If you’re serious about…
prayers too small

Are Your Prayers Too Small?

If it seems as though God is not answering your prayers, it’s probably not because your prayers are too big.…
Experience Intimacy with God

How to Experience Intimacy with God

Some people are hyper-religious and super-spiritual – and obnoxious. If that’s what “intimacy with God” produces, who wants it? Others…
Why God Invented Sex

Why God Invented Sex

How is intimacy going for you? It is good, healthy, nourishing? Or have your attempts at intimacy resulted in only…
what intimacy with God means

What Intimacy with God Means

You’ve heard people talk about it. Perhaps it sounds a little weird, and at the same time something in your…
Come out of Hiding

How to Come Out of Hiding

How we love to hide! It’s been that way ever since the Garden of Eden. (Genesis 3:8-10) Wounds create shame.…
creating a new marriage

Creating a New Marriage

Every marriage experiences mess-ups. It’s easy to get caught up in shame, blame, and misery. But taking the necessary steps…
OK to ask WHY

Is It OK to Ask WHY?

For as long as human beings have tried to survive in a sinful world they have asked WHY. The problem…
Antidote to self-doubt

The Antidote to Self-Doubt

What does the self-talk in your head sound like? What do you tell yourself? Perhaps like so many people you…
Is Your Marriage an Idol?

Is Your Marriage an Idol?

God gave marriage to humankind as a good gift. But just like food, rest, pleasure, money, authority, or any other…
All Belongs to God

It All Belongs to God Anyway

God’s in charge, right? Then why do bad things happen? We can’t fix things ourselves! But God has given humankind…
Jesus There With You

Take Jesus There With You

God doesn’t simply rain down healing or transformation from “on high.” Instead, He came to be with us. And in…
You Warmed My Heart

You Warmed My Heart!

Last week we sent out our 2019 Reader Survey. Hundreds and hundreds of you answered. THANK YOU for warming my…
Christmas Story Reading

Our Christmas Gift to You

Perhaps you are celebrating Christmas with many friends and family, with food, presents, gifts, and perhaps football. Or perhaps you’re…
Loving Others

How Loving Others Changes You

Ask almost any Christian believer, and they will say Yes to the question, “Are you interested in becoming more like…
What Gratitude Does For You

What Gratitude Does For You

Today is Thanksgiving Day in the United States. Many are gathering to celebrate with family, food, — and football. It’s…
Fake News or Good News

Fake News or Good News?

In the United States we’ve just been through a very contentious election cycle. There’s been a lot of talk about…
Intimacy in a fallen world

Intimacy in a Fallen World

How you do relationships is both a reflection of and the determining factor in the quality of your life. If…
Different Ways to Pray

Different Ways to Pray

Prayer is talking with God. We develop prayer habits just like other habits. Perhaps you’re in the habit of sitting…
prayer for healing

God Help Me! I’m Sick!

Sickness and disease: is it simply a fact of life on this miserable, sin-filled, messed-up planet? Is it our own…
Is sex a need?

Is Sex a Need?

Oh my, we’re getting touchy! Perhaps even asking that question feels like sandpaper in the most sensitive parts of you.…
Listen for God's Voice

How to Listen for God’s Voice

We communicate with the people we care about. There’s no relationship without communication. It’s the same with you and God.…
Dishonest businessman

Christians Behaving Badly

When someone complains about Christians behaving badly a common response is to admonish them to look to Jesus rather than…
submission in Christian marriage

Submission in Christian Marriage

Hear the words “submission” and “marriage” in the same sentence and you may feel something visceral rise up in your…
End of the Story

The End of the Story

The Bible as a true story, an epic play, a blockbuster movie, should come with a warning; Spoiler Alert! We’re…
Couple praying

How to Pray With Your Spouse

Praying together with your spouse can be one of the most intimate, healing, and meaningful aspects of your relationship. You…
Mother and daughter doing pushups

Love is not Wimpy

Say love and chances are your immediate mental picture is soft, squishy, and colored in pastels. If you’re over 40…
Man praying

God Doesn’t Always Fix You

By that I mean, God doesn’t always fix you in some magical single moment. In the ultimate sense God always…
Marriage is hard! Couple reading Scripture together.

Why Marriage Is So Hard

Sometime after the preacher pronounces you man and wife the unwelcome truth hits you; marriage is hard! That realization may…
Worshiping God

Who Is Your God?

Do you know who your God is? As Christian believers that may seem a rhetorical question. But if someone met…
Emotions

5 Ways to Befriend Your Feelings

Feelings are fickle. They’re real, but they’re unreliable. Emotions can be affected by everything happening both inside you and around…
Sunrise

HOPE for the In-Between Times

The in-between times can often be one of the most challenging. The Christmas celebrations are over. The New Year is…

What to do if you Feel Unloved

Unwanted. Rejected. Second class. Fifth wheel. Unimportant. Not good enough. Lonely. You feel unloved, and it hurts. You want to…

How to Know God as your Husband

There’s that Scripture you know should mean more to you: “Your Maker is your husband.” (Isaiah 54:5) But you’re just…

Politics, Faith, and Fear

Politics and faith have clashed even more strongly during this election year in the United States. People on both sides…

Facing Grief at Easter

Today is Good Friday. Sunday is Easter. Is there a more important weekend in all of Christianity? The death, burial,…

A New Year’s Prayer

Over the past couple weeks your inbox has probably been filled with emails promoting goal-setting programs and ways to guarantee…
Prayer

What to do After God Speaks

You had a problem, or something you desired deeply. You prayed about it – a lot. You asked others to pray for…

When You Feel Like a Failure

Let’s just admit it. We’re not perfect, and we know it. But sometimes the not-perfect-ness gets really old. Your head…

Helping the Least of These

There’s a long-running commercial on television in the US that tries to raise money for an organization helping abused and…
Woman alone

For the Christian in a Bad Marriage

There’s plenty of marriage advice out there: pre-marital counseling, marriage seminars, sermons and books proclaiming the magic of a marriage…

Are You Putting God in a Box?

So who’s right? You? Your pastor? The Pope? The head of some denomination? The group of church leaders when they…

This Is NOT God’s Will

Bad things are happening – to people you know, to Christians here and in other places, and perhaps to you…
Something growing

How to Grow Your Character

In some ways your character is like your closet, your car, or your bank account. Of course it’s much more…

When Good People Do Bad Things

Many in the popular media seem to relish exposing “skeletons in the closet” whenever an individual or a group that…

You Really ARE Alone

Helpers, advocates, friends, and kind people everywhere often say to someone who’s hurting, “You’re not alone.” I often say it myself. It’s…

5 Reasons to Leave Your Church

Going to church is something most Christians assume they should do. It’s fashionable for some people to quote Hebrews 10:25…
Reading the Bible

What To Do When You Don’t Feel Like Reading the Bible

There’s that little voice in your head that says, “Read the Bible!” Intellectually you accept the fact that as a Christian, reading the Bible would be a good thing to do. But you don’t feel like it.
Here are a few thoughts on what to do at those moments when you just don’t feel like reading the Bible.

Listening

Hearing God’s Voice

God speaks to us, and we can hear Him.
Is that really true? How can we know it’s Him? What does that look like?
I have learned some things about hearing His voice that make it much less confusing and more practical. Here are some characteristics of God’s voice:

Boxes

God In A Box

We so easily put God in a box. OK, so who’s right? Your pastor? The Pope? The head of some…

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