Ask almost any Christian believer, and they will say Yes to the question, “Are you interested in becoming more like Jesus?” (See Romans 8:29) That is God’s ultimate purpose for you. But at some point it’s up to you to put what you learn into practice and actually DO what Jesus asks of you. And it’s in this context that loving others changes you.
I wanted to get married, but nothing was happening. I spent many years wondering what was so wrong with me that no one would choose me. The few relationships I did have never went anywhere. The loneliness left me shuffling between feeling desperate and hopeless.
But I finally grew up. There were things I finally learned as a single that changed everything.
Sometimes it seems it would be awesome if God simply “zapped” you and you were “there,” fully transformed into the person He created you to be. But almost always He takes us through a process of becoming. How well are you cooperating in that process? There are some clear catalysts for spiritual growth that we can engage in, and doing so will make our transformation significantly quicker and more meaningful.
It’s a very old song: “No man is an island. No man stands alone.” In the body of Christ that’s especially true. You cannot become the person God created you to be without the role of others in your life. For those of us who are fiercely independent, like me, that’s a truth we love to challenge and resist. But you are not meant to grow alone.