God uses marriage to heal you. It’s one of the most important and effective tools He uses to bring you the healing and transformation you need.
If you’re in a miserable or dysfunctional marriage that may seem completely contradictory. How can I experience healing when my spouse is emotionally unavailable, won’t communicate, continues to cause me pain, refuses to understand me, and withholds intimacy? I need healing FROM my marriage!
You’re right; you married a sinner. You married someone who doesn’t meet your needs and keeps wounding you over and over again.
But your spouse married a sinner too – YOU. You don’t meet their needs and you keep wounding your spouse over and over again too.
Didn’t God know marriage would cause so much pain? Couldn’t He have created us without these needs and desires?
Yes, He could have. But without marriage we would be deprived of one of God’s most effective tools through which we experience our need of Him as well as His healing and transformation. Some of His best miracles only happen in the impossible environment of marriage.
(Note: Trauma, abuse, and violence is always wrong. If you are in an abusive marriage, get help right away.)