God doesn’t simply rain down healing or transformation from “on high.” Instead, He came to be with us. And in whatever troubles you face, whether traumas from the past or troubles in the present, that means you can take Jesus there with you.
Your picture of God makes a difference. In your heart of hearts, what do you believe about Him? Not what others tell you, or what you think you’re supposed to believe. When you’re faced with “stuff,” do you believe He’s truly on your side? In the end, do you experience God as for you or against you?
Ask almost any Christian believer, and they will say Yes to the question, “Are you interested in becoming more like Jesus?” (See Romans 8:29) That is God’s ultimate purpose for you. But at some point it’s up to you to put what you learn into practice and actually DO what Jesus asks of you. And it’s in this context that loving others changes you.
Few people experience lasting spiritual growth in isolation. God never intended us to grow alone. He created us with the need, desire, and capacity for authentic intimate personal relationships because that’s His nature, and because that’s the space in which we grow best. Community by design is God’s laboratory where your ongoing spiritual transformation happens.
Oh, if it were only that easy! I hear every day from a husband or wife who says, “I can’t get my spouse to do . . . . And if they would change, everything would be great!” You cannot get married expecting to change your spouse. And yet you can change them. Sound confusing?