Why You Must Find Your WHY

Why You Must Find Your WHY

Find Your WHYBrianna sat down to chat yesterday. Her second child is nine months old, and she and her husband are planning to try for a third within the next few months. They returned from a trip to France just a matter of days ago, and she couldn’t get enough of the good food there. She’s also trying to complete some extra coursework/certifications to further her nursing career. She knows she needs to make some changes in her lifestyle. “But not right now,” she said. “Perhaps in a couple years, when things settle down, I’ll work on changing my diet and getting healthier.”

I’ve got some news for Brianna. Things will never settle down enough to make it “easy” to get healthier. If she has a third child there will be that many more clothes to wash, doctor’s appointments to keep up with, and daycare or school decisions to make. More career opportunities will only add to potential responsibilities and their attendant stresses. More money could mean even more travel, more interesting restaurants to visit, and more reasons to delay making healthy lifestyle changes.

If you’re waiting until circumstances “settle down,” you’ll never start that exercise program, change your eating habits, have that difficult conversation, launch that business idea, make date night a regular appointment, or study the Bible more. You will only do the truly important things if you find a reason that’s bigger than your current circumstances.

You’ll only make a change when you find your WHY.

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The Single Most Important Way to Avoid Bad Advice

The Single Most Important Way to Avoid Bad Advice

Big brother offering advice to little brotherLearning from people who have experienced the same challenges you have is awesomely wise. It’s one of the most productive and efficient ways to grow, not to mention avoiding pain and heartache. That’s certainly true if the advice is good. But how do you know you’re not getting bad advice?

I’ve received plenty of both good and bad advice over the years. I remember one occasion when I purchased a car based on some bad advice from a friend. Seven months and numerous problems later I was relieved when I sold that car and only lost a few thousand dollars. Bad advice can get you in trouble in a hurry – and not just financial trouble!

Seeking wise advice is Biblical: “Where there is no guidance, the people fall, But in abundance of counselors there is victory.” (Proverbs 11:14) But not just any counsel will do; it must be godly. “Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked or stand in the way of sinners or sit in the seat of mockers.” (Psalm 1:1)

SO, how do you know whether this person or this counsel is wise, godly, and appropriate for you?

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Anxiety can be Good for You

Anxiety can be Good for You

Anxiety and ChangeAnxiety is a very unpleasant feeling. Your heart may race. Your stomach may be in knots. You may have trouble sleeping and trouble concentrating. But the very thing that makes you uncomfortable is often absolutely necessary if you want to make some positive change in your life.

Untreated or longstanding anxiety is certainly not good for your health. It’s a marker of stress, and too much of it for too long can lead to permanent damage to your body and your mind.

But there IS something very positive about anxiety. There’s a lot in common between anxiety and change, even good change.

Therapy is a great option for many people when something in their life is not going well. But some who go to therapy leave the very same way as they started. Researchers interviewed individuals who had made a significant and lasting change as a result of therapy to find out what made the difference. They found two conditions that had to be present for people to be able to change:

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Keys to Overcoming Opposition In Your Mission

Keys to Overcoming Opposition In Your Mission

Push AwayThere’s a popular myth – perhaps unspoken – that says everything should be easy if you’re doing the right thing. But that’s just not true. Call it “the resistance,” spiritual warfare, or inertia, but the fact is that if you’re trying to do anything of significance you will face opposition. Coming to terms with and overcoming opposition will make the difference between success and failure in almost anything you do.

Change is usually painful, and almost always difficult. Every system wants to maintain the status quo. Your brain want to keep right on practicing the same bad habits, thinking the same negative thoughts, or enjoying the same addictions. Your family system wants to continue the same unhealthy or dysfunctional patterns of relating. Your church or business wants to remain at the same level, getting the same results as it is now, instead of growing.

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When Good People Do Bad Things

When Good People Do Bad Things

PaparazziMany in the popular media seem to relish exposing “skeletons in the closet” whenever an individual or a group that claims to be Christian does something bad. “Hypocrite!” they shout. “Why do you think you can judge others when you are doing worse things yourselves?” A recent media circus has made political fodder of a Christian family’s pain, and that’s wrong.

But even though the circus is wrong, it’s normal and understandable. This is only one of the more recent scandals involving those who claim the name of Christ. Those who would rather continue living without any restraint on their lifestyle love to demonize those who fail to live up to the standards they themselves portray as right. “Bad” people feel justified in their badness when good people do bad things too. And talk of “forgiveness” and “bad choices” doesn’t address the real issues.

The media will not be silenced when Christians engage in bad behavior involving sex, lies, or money. While such publicity may be personally excruciating and publically damaging to the name of Christ, I want to look deeper. While there are real benefits to adopting an openly Christian lifestyle, why are the lives of many who claim Christianity no better than others?

The data is not all negative, but there’s plenty of evidence to say that on many fronts Christians are behaving badly all too often:

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