Women and Hormones: No Excuse!

Women and Hormones: No Excuse!

Women are wonderful creatures. Some say a woman is God’s crowning creation. A woman is beautiful, complicated, fascinating, strong, and loving.

But for some men, a woman presents a case of, “Can’t live with her: can’t live without her!”

Much of a woman’s fascinating, complicated nature comes down to her and her hormones. The very thing that makes a woman who she is can also create frustration, misery, and major conflict in intimate relationships. The seasons of a woman’s life are, in large measure, dictated by her hormones. Her monthly cycle, PMS, pregnancy, infertility, and menopause – they are all marked by significant hormonal changes, and the sometimes difficult emotional and physical results.

A woman’s nature is a finely-crafted integration of body, mind, and soul. Anything that impacts one aspect of her life has significant impact on every other area. Men are integrated beings too, but they are more compartmentalized than women. You cannot change one thing in a woman’s life without changing everything. Physical changes, often triggered by hormonal fluctuations, affect her emotions. The quality of her important relationships affects her physical well-being. And her spiritual life is affected as well.

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7 Things I Would Say To You As My Patient

Woman Doctor with PatientYou’re tired, you don’t feel well, and you want some help. You come to see me in my office, hoping I will have an answer. Part of you hopes some test will be abnormal to explain why you feel the way you do, and that there is a pill to make everything OK again.

How I wish I could fulfill your hopes! I wish I could fix you. That would make your life, and mine, so much easier.

Occasionally there is a quick answer. But most of the time it’s a matter of you and me figuring things out together. And then it comes down to you taking responsibility for doing what you can for your own wellbeing.

Here are a few things I’d like to tell you:

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25 Messages Women Hear

25 Messages Women Hear

Think of the messages women hear during an average evening. You stop at the grocery store on your way home, and in the checkout line you notice the magazine covers on the nearby stand. You turn on the TV after dinner to relax with a couple of your favorite shows. The 10 minutes each hour of commercials blare even louder than the program.

As you open the mail there are three bills that are larger than you expect: you’re not certain how you’ll be able to pay them. You open Facebook, and notice some pictures from your friend’s family trip last weekend. You can’t remember when you last had a true weekend away.

As you look at your schedule for tomorrow, you remember you will be going into work late. You have a doctor’s appointment. You made the appointment because you seem to be tired all the time, and hope there’s a medical explanation – and treatment.

During the evening your cellphone rings several times. One call is

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What A Difference A Father Makes

Father and SonIt’s not hard to find the statistics. A child who grows up without an involved father has a much higher chance of being poor, having health problems, being incarcerated, abusing drugs and alcohol, becoming involved in teen sex, having less education, and much more.

We just passed Father’s Day. Many of you celebrated the memory or presence of a father who passed on a godly heritage, important values, and a readiness to take life on. Others of you were not celebrating:  your earthly father was either absent, uninvolved, or abusive. One thing we all agree on – a father makes a difference!

I asked a large group of people, both men and women, this question: “What do you think is the most important thing a father can do for his children?” I was amazed at the large number of people who responded. And the answers fell clearly into two categories. A father should:

  1. Be a reflection of our Heavenly Father to his children.
  2. Spend time with his children.

Perhaps one reason so many people mentioned the time issue is because

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How to Make Your Doctor Happy

How to Make Your Doctor Happy

Doctor in white coatWhat a difference it makes when a patient has “skin in the game!”

One of the most common question I hear from most patients is, “Does my insurance cover this?”

If a given medication or treatment is the best option for a given patient, why should insurance dictate whether they receive it or not? I realize health insurance has become the primary way people expect their health care to be paid for. But why should some group of number crunchers on the other side of the country decide what happens between me and the woman sitting in front of me? It’s just wrong!

It’s a very different experience for me and my patient when there is no middle-man. Just today a woman came to see me who desired some specific care that I was uniquely qualified to give her. It was one of the best doctor-patient interactions I’ve experienced. And here’s why:

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