Getting married, you were hoping the fireworks between you would continue. The bond was real, and it felt good. But life happens, and now you feel disconnected from your spouse. What do you do now?
Did you know that happiness research is a “thing?” For the past few decades researchers have looked at what determines how happy people are. It’s not primarily money, where you live, or even health. More critical than any of those is the quality of your closest personal relationships such as family and friends. But what do you do when people disappoint you?
Feeling isolated, alone, or lonely is a common struggle for singles. And you may imagine that finding a boyfriend/girlfriend and then getting married will solve that problem. (Talk to married people; that’s not necessarily true!) Connecting with others when you’re single can feel difficult.
Marriage is for our benefit here on earth. Marriage can sometimes seem endless and tedious, but it is temporary. And when it’s over you will want to be able to look back without regrets.
Today’s Western culture is often less than helpful or friendly to long-term Christian marriage. Few believers would dispute that, and you would probably agree that marriage is more like a marathon than a sprint. Yet so many marriages dissolve into misery, or even end. Understanding the SCENE in your marriage provides some fascinating perspective.
