Vice Admiral James B. Stockdale was an officer in the US Navy during the Vietnam War. He became a fighter pilot, and in 1965 he was shot down while returning from his second combat tour over North Vietnam. Held for nearly eight years as a prisoner-of-war in the infamous “Hanoi Hilton”, he suffered repeated torture and years in solitary confinement without any prisoner’s rights, and with no assurance that he would survive the war or live to see his family again.
As the highest ranking officer in the camp, Stockdale shouldered responsibility for the other men also held there. He made it his mission to do everything in his power to help the men survive unbroken, while at the same time leading the American resistance against Vietnamese attempts to use the prisoners for propaganda. He instituted a cohesive set of rules governing prisoner behavior which provided the men with hope and empowerment. He developed an elaborate method of internal communication the men could use even during enforced silence or solitary confinement. Risking further torture or death if discovered, he found ways to forward secret intelligence to the US government through letters he was allowed to write to his wife. Following his release he received a total of 26 medals including the Medal of Honor.
Could you survive that kind of trauma? What kept Admiral Stockdale sane during those years of imprisonment and torture? What allowed him to do so much to help so many other men survive unbroken?
The Stockdale Paradox
Researcher and author Jim Collins writes of an enlightening conversation he had with Stockdale. When asked how he made it through Stockdale responded;
“I never lost faith in the end of the story. . . . I never doubted not only that I would get out, but also that I would prevail in the end and turn the experience into the defining event of my life, which, in retrospect, I would not trade.”
But not everyone made it through intact. Who didn’t survive? The optimists.
“They were the ones who said, ‘We’re going to be out by Christmas.’ And Christmas would come, and Christmas would go. Then they’d say, ‘We’re going to be out by Easter.’ And Easter would come, and Easter would go. And then Thanksgiving, and then it would be Christmas again. And they died of a broken heart.”
And then Stockdale told Jim Collins the bottom line.
“This is a very important lesson. You must never confuse faith that you will prevail in the end – which you can never afford to lose – with the discipline to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.”
That lesson has become known as the Stockdale paradox;
“Retain faith that you will prevail in the end regardless of the difficulties, and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they may be.”
Your Stockdale Paradox
You and I are also in a war. No, we’re not flying fighter jets over North Vietnam. We’re not chained with leg irons or held in solitary confinement. We don’t have to communicate with our superiors through secret codes hidden in written letters. But we are in a war none the less.
If you’ve made a decision to follow Jesus and taken your stand on God’s side, then you have an enemy. That enemy is not your boss, your children, or your spouse. Your enemy is God’s enemy, Satan and his kingdom of darkness. And he is out to destroy us with more tenacity than any North Vietnamese army fighting against the US forces.
Your problems are in some measure part of the war between good and evil, God and Satan. Your problems may simply be keeping you from being as effective for God’s kingdom as you need to be, or they may come more directly from Satan’s opposition.
Regardless, your pathway out and to freedom is the Stockdale paradox – looking with brutal honesty at the factors involved in your distress including spiritual warfare, while at the same time maintaining absolute faith in the freedom and victory Jesus makes available to you.
During his captivity Admiral Stockdale did not spend his energy blaming US government policy for their ineffective execution of the war, as ineffective as those policies were. He didn’t rail against his captors for their brutality or wallow in self-pity. He focused his energy on surviving, resisting, and helping others.
You too must focus your energy not on blaming others or wallowing in self-pity, but on surviving, resisting, and then helping others.
The Two Action Steps
Those two ingredients of the Stockdale paradox provide an awesome roadmap forward whatever your problems may be: physical illness, psychological distress, financial trouble, relationship problems, or spiritual oppression.
And usually any of those problems is also affected by your wellbeing in all the other areas.
Here’s how to turn those two ingredients into action steps to deal with any problem you have.
Confront the brutal facts of your situation.
Faith does not refuse to be honest. Faith confronts the truth, but faith also knows that what our physical senses see is only part of the truth.
How do you confront those brutal facts? Whatever your problem, consider these questions:
- What do I know about my problem? What do I need to find out?
- What outside elements (people, resources, etc.) are contributing to my problem?
- What have I done myself to contribute to the problem?
- Are there elements in my biology, family history, or past personal experiences that make me more vulnerable?
- What psychological and spiritual vulnerabilities do I have? What strengths do I have in these areas?
- What resources do I have available? What resources can I access?
That’s half of the equation. But it’s not the end.
Develop and maintain faith in the outcome.
Admiral Stockdale maintained faith in the eventual outcome – that the US army would eventually prevail, and he and his fellow prisoners-of-war would be released. When that would happen, and whether any one of them would personally live to experience that, was uncertain. We too can have absolute faith in the outcome of the war in which we live.
That outcome comes in two phases.
First, we can experience real and lasting victory here and now. Jesus said, “The kingdom of God is at hand.” (Mark 1:15) It’s here now. Today. Regardless of your past or your present.
Jesus’ life, death, and resurrection gained that victory for us. We can experience and walk in that victory here and now. That means there is always hope whatever your circumstances:
- Your finances, health, or marriage can get better
- You can make it through sickness, grief, betrayal, or any other loss
- Pain does not have to break you; it can make you stronger
And second, this whole sinful messed-up world will be replaced by a glorious one when Jesus returns.
However good this life can get – or not get – it’s not enough. Thankfully we can know with much more certainty than Admiral Stockdale ever had what the final outcome of this conflict will be. Death, sin, Satan, and everything evil will be forever destroyed.
The End of the Story
This war will not go on forever. We know how the story ends.
And the end of the story is – Jesus wins!
In the meantime, don’t be afraid to confront the truth of your circumstances.
And hold on to faith in the eventual outcome of what God has for you.
“For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.” (Romans 8:18)
Your turn: Which is harder for you; to be brutally honest about where you are, or to maintain faith in the eventual outcome of this war, where Jesus wins? Leave a comment below.
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