Spiritual Struggle

What Were You Even Created For?

If you woke up this morning feeling that everything in your world is better-than-good and you’re fully satisfied, this article…
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Your Brain CAN Change

When I went through medical school back in the “dark ages” we were told that 50% of what we learned…

Two Questions God Loves to Answer

God hears our prayers. And there are many different kinds of prayers; intercession, thanksgiving, repentance, asking for needs, spiritual warfare…

Why Free Will?

Couldn’t God have created us all to automatically love Him? Why did sin ever come into existence? Why free will…

The View from the Top

Perspective matters. You know that. A good leader regularly reminds herself and those she leads of the bigger picture, especially…

Why Can’t I Stop Sinning?

You’re still frequently angry and bitter. Curse words are still coming out of your mouth. You keep satisfying your sexual…

How I Decided to Marry a Divorced Man

Remarriage after divorce is one of those topics that can make otherwise “good” Christians become prickly, self-righteous, or downright vindictive.…

A Cure, not a Band-Aid

The problem isn’t always the real problem. Taking Tylenol when you have a fever doesn’t cure the infection. Mowing the…
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Single at Christmas

Christmas is only a few days away – and you’re alone. Well, not really alone, not totally. But you’re single.…

Are You Spiritually Healthy?

I hope you are. I really do! Hopefully your spiritual practices bring you joy and growth, you feel connected to…
Is my marriage toxic?

Is My Marriage Toxic?

How bad is bad enough? When you are unhappily married that can be a difficult question. If you’re serious about…
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Are Your Prayers Too Small?

If it seems as though God is not answering your prayers, it’s probably not because your prayers are too big.…
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When Your Spouse is Negative

Keeping a positive outlook on life brings many benefits – both to your own experience and to your marriage. But…
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25 Good Things to Think About

Thoughts control actions. Thoughts come before emotions. Thoughts impact how other people see you, and how you react to every situation you come across. Choosing what thoughts to think can go a long way toward making you well or sick, happy or sad, lonely or connected, desperate or satisfied.
If you feel challenged to know what to think about, here’s a list to get you started. When you find yourself rolling negative things around in your mind, choose one of these items instead. You can think about:

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How to Come Out of Hiding

How we love to hide! It’s been that way ever since the Garden of Eden. (Genesis 3:8-10) Wounds create shame.…
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When People Disappoint You

Did you know that happiness research is a “thing?” For the past few decades researchers have looked at what determines…
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Creating a New Marriage

Every marriage experiences mess-ups. It’s easy to get caught up in shame, blame, and misery. But taking the necessary steps…
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Is It OK to Ask WHY?

For as long as human beings have tried to survive in a sinful world they have asked WHY. The problem…
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The Antidote to Self-Doubt

What does the self-talk in your head sound like? What do you tell yourself? Perhaps like so many people you…
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What to Do When You Feel Lonely

Pain is perhaps the loneliest thing in the world. That goes for emotional pain, physical pain, spiritual pain. It becomes…
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Take Jesus There With You

God doesn’t simply rain down healing or transformation from “on high.” Instead, He came to be with us. And in…
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Help! My Spouse is Cheating!

Among the possible sources of pain a spouse’s betrayal ranks as one of the worst. The person you expected to…
Did I Marry the Wrong Person?

Did I Marry the Wrong Person?

It’s important to choose your spouse wisely. But you’re already married! When your relationship goes sideways it’s easy to feel…
Seeking God's Perspective

Seeking God’s Perspective

Interpretation is important. From one language to another, between man-speak and woman-speak, from the Bible to our own lives –…
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God Help Me! I’m Sick!

Sickness and disease: is it simply a fact of life on this miserable, sin-filled, messed-up planet? Is it our own…
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Is Sex a Need?

Oh my, we’re getting touchy! Perhaps even asking that question feels like sandpaper in the most sensitive parts of you.…
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How to Listen for God’s Voice

We communicate with the people we care about. There’s no relationship without communication. It’s the same with you and God.…
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The End of the Story

The Bible as a true story, an epic play, a blockbuster movie, should come with a warning; Spoiler Alert! We’re…
When is it Abuse?

When Is It Abuse?

God designed marriage to be a transformative, healing, growth-producing, fulfilling relationship full of intimacy and love. In our sinful messed-up…
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God Doesn’t Always Fix You

By that I mean, God doesn’t always fix you in some magical single moment. In the ultimate sense God always…
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Who Is Your God?

Do you know who your God is? As Christian believers that may seem a rhetorical question. But if someone met…
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A Widow’s First Year Alone

In some sense “widow’s first year alone” is deeply false. I’m not really alone. I never have been, and I…
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Positive Thinking and the Bible

Is it magic? Is it “mind over matter?” Does faith mean white-knuckling it with positive thoughts and affirmations? What do you…
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HOPE for the In-Between Times

The in-between times can often be one of the most challenging. The Christmas celebrations are over. The New Year is…

How to Know God as your Husband

There’s that Scripture you know should mean more to you: “Your Maker is your husband.” (Isaiah 54:5) But you’re just…

Politics, Faith, and Fear

Politics and faith have clashed even more strongly during this election year in the United States. People on both sides…

Facing Grief at Easter

Today is Good Friday. Sunday is Easter. Is there a more important weekend in all of Christianity? The death, burial,…
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The Blessing of Limitations

We love stories of people who overcame limitations. There’s Harriet Tubman – escaped slavery as a young woman, then became…
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Declaring the Death of Death

This weekend we laid my wonderful husband Al Tanksley to rest. Although my heart is broken, my spirit is determined…
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Doing the Next Right Thing

You’ve probably heard the adage, “Just do the next right thing.” In the midst of confusion or overwhelm, it’s a…

Christians, Christianity and War

“Christianity and war” seems like an oxymoron. But unless you’ve been in the jungle with no means of communication with…

When You Feel Like a Failure

Let’s just admit it. We’re not perfect, and we know it. But sometimes the not-perfect-ness gets really old. Your head…
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God Help Me! I’m Broke!

Bring up the topic of money, and everyone has an opinion. The government should do more – or is doing…
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For the Christian in a Bad Marriage

There’s plenty of marriage advice out there: pre-marital counseling, marriage seminars, sermons and books proclaiming the magic of a marriage…

Are You Putting God in a Box?

So who’s right? You? Your pastor? The Pope? The head of some denomination? The group of church leaders when they…

Anxiety can be Good for You

Anxiety is a very unpleasant feeling. Your heart may race. Your stomach may be in knots. You may have trouble…

This Is NOT God’s Will

Bad things are happening – to people you know, to Christians here and in other places, and perhaps to you…
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How to Grow Your Character

In some ways your character is like your closet, your car, or your bank account. Of course it’s much more…

When Good People Do Bad Things

Many in the popular media seem to relish exposing “skeletons in the closet” whenever an individual or a group that…

You Really ARE Alone

Helpers, advocates, friends, and kind people everywhere often say to someone who’s hurting, “You’re not alone.” I often say it myself. It’s…

5 Reasons to Leave Your Church

Going to church is something most Christians assume they should do. It’s fashionable for some people to quote Hebrews 10:25…
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When God-Talk or Religion Is Part of Abuse

When religion, church, God-talk, or spirituality is included as an aspect of abuse it becomes even more damaging. It’s bad enough that your body and soul are hurt in the process; it’s even worse when your spirit is abused and assaulted at the same time.
When the abuser uses spiritual jargon to justify the abuse it adds a further dimension to the healing that is needed.
Healing can be a challenging process. Here are a few thoughts for those who need healing when God-talk was part of the abuse or violence:

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What To Do When You Don’t Feel Like Praying

Only the most spiritual of people would deny that there are times they don’t feel like praying. And I’m not sure I would believe them if they did!
Whatever the reason, sometimes you just don’t feel like praying. And if someone says to you, “Pray about it” at one of those moments, they’re the one who might end up needing prayer!
So what do you do with those moments? Is there an option other than living with the guilt of not being “spiritual enough?”
Yes, there is. A few thoughts:

Don’t Let These 4 Dangerous Spiritual Viruses Infect You

Sandra and Tom plan to never enter a church again. They feel bruised and beaten emotionally and spiritually at the hand of a group of Christians, and feel their only hope of survival is to separate from the Christian church as they see it.
Unhealthy spirituality can be toxic – to your mental well-being, to your physical health, and to your relationship with God. Don’t let one of these dangerous spiritual viruses infect your life:

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God In A Box

We so easily put God in a box. OK, so who’s right? Your pastor? The Pope? The head of some…

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