Spiritual Growth

Married Sex: Can it be Good?

Maurice and Monica weren’t sure their marriage would make it. They had lived together for a few years prior to…

A Birthday Gift for Jesus

A few years ago a friend shared with me an important part of how she celebrates Christmas every year. When…

Why It’s Not Really a Sex Problem

Behaviors matter. Behaviors have consequences. And sexual behaviors especially have consequences. But for those who are struggling here, putting your…

Your Body: Friend or Foe?

Your body can be a touchy subject (no pun intended). Is your body friend or foe to you? Many if…

What Were You Even Created For?

If you woke up this morning feeling that everything in your world is better-than-good and you’re fully satisfied, this article…
Man's hand reaching toward the light. You were created for intimacy.

Why God Created You for Intimacy

There’s something in the human heart that craves connection. We sense, perhaps unconsciously, that we are created for intimacy. That…
Young person sitting in grain field. Brain CAN change.

Your Brain CAN Change

When I went through medical school back in the “dark ages” we were told that 50% of what we learned…

Is God Disappointed in You?

How does God feel about you? (We’re using human words to talk about God; that’s troublesome. But stick with me.)…

The View from the Top

Perspective matters. You know that. A good leader regularly reminds herself and those she leads of the bigger picture, especially…

Why Can’t I Stop Sinning?

You’re still frequently angry and bitter. Curse words are still coming out of your mouth. You keep satisfying your sexual…

How I Learned to Love Well

While learning to love well is a life-long process, loving well was something I was privileged to deeply experience with…

Love is NOT All You Need

If you’re over a certain age perhaps you can hear it in your head even now: “All you need is…

A Cure, not a Band-Aid

The problem isn’t always the real problem. Taking Tylenol when you have a fever doesn’t cure the infection. Mowing the…

God Does Not Work Alone

God can and does work any way He chooses. But God did not create you to need only Him. That…

Relationship Habits

Like locking the door behind you when you enter your home or brushing your teeth before going to bed, relationship…

How Your Mood Affects Your Spouse

The honeymoon is over. You’ve settled into the routine of life. Small irritations and disappointments seem all too common. Life,…

Are You Spiritually Healthy?

I hope you are. I really do! Hopefully your spiritual practices bring you joy and growth, you feel connected to…
prayers too small

Are Your Prayers Too Small?

If it seems as though God is not answering your prayers, it’s probably not because your prayers are too big.…
Experience Intimacy with God

How to Experience Intimacy with God

Some people are hyper-religious and super-spiritual – and obnoxious. If that’s what “intimacy with God” produces, who wants it? Others…
Why God Invented Sex

Why God Invented Sex

How is intimacy going for you? It is good, healthy, nourishing? Or have your attempts at intimacy resulted in only…
what intimacy with God means

What Intimacy with God Means

You’ve heard people talk about it. Perhaps it sounds a little weird, and at the same time something in your…
Digital Diet Causing Anxiety

Is your Digital Diet Causing Anxiety?

Feeling overwhelmed with life. Distracted without a sense of purpose. Overstressed and overanxious. Lonely, without close relationships. Unable to focus,…
reconnect with your spouse

How to Reconnect with Your Spouse

You are feeling seriously disconnected from your spouse, and it’s just plain awful. You’ve determined you will no longer ignore,…
Come out of Hiding

How to Come Out of Hiding

How we love to hide! It’s been that way ever since the Garden of Eden. (Genesis 3:8-10) Wounds create shame.…
marriage in the real world

Marriage in the Real World

The marriages you saw and experienced growing up were a mixture of good and bad. If your parents were happily…
creating a new marriage

Creating a New Marriage

Every marriage experiences mess-ups. It’s easy to get caught up in shame, blame, and misery. But taking the necessary steps…
Is Your Marriage an Idol?

Is Your Marriage an Idol?

God gave marriage to humankind as a good gift. But just like food, rest, pleasure, money, authority, or any other…
Who are you becoming?

Who Are You Becoming?

If you are the same person tomorrow as you are today, your life will pretty much be the same as…
All Belongs to God

It All Belongs to God Anyway

God’s in charge, right? Then why do bad things happen? We can’t fix things ourselves! But God has given humankind…
Jesus There With You

Take Jesus There With You

God doesn’t simply rain down healing or transformation from “on high.” Instead, He came to be with us. And in…
Find a Good Spouse

How to Find a Good Spouse

If you’re single and want to be married, you desire a good thing. Proverbs says, “He who finds a wife…
Keys to Lasting Love

Three Keys to Lasting Love

Valentine’s Day is coming up next week. If you’re a wife, you may be thinking, “I hope he remembers!” If…
She Needs You to Lead

She Needs You to Lead

This one is for husbands. (I know; you’ll probably keep reading even if you’re not a husband.) Let me share…
You Warmed My Heart

You Warmed My Heart!

Last week we sent out our 2019 Reader Survey. Hundreds and hundreds of you answered. THANK YOU for warming my…
Loving Others

How Loving Others Changes You

Ask almost any Christian believer, and they will say Yes to the question, “Are you interested in becoming more like…
What Gratitude Does For You

What Gratitude Does For You

Today is Thanksgiving Day in the United States. Many are gathering to celebrate with family, food, — and football. It’s…
Fake News or Good News

Fake News or Good News?

In the United States we’ve just been through a very contentious election cycle. There’s been a lot of talk about…
Intimacy in a fallen world

Intimacy in a Fallen World

How you do relationships is both a reflection of and the determining factor in the quality of your life. If…
Your Change, Your Choice

Your Change, Your Choice

The God who created you has treated you with amazing dignity by giving you the gift of choice. Your limited…
Different Ways to Pray

Different Ways to Pray

Prayer is talking with God. We develop prayer habits just like other habits. Perhaps you’re in the habit of sitting…
Seeking God's Perspective

Seeking God’s Perspective

Interpretation is important. From one language to another, between man-speak and woman-speak, from the Bible to our own lives –…
Can your feelings change?

Can Your Feelings Change?

Feelings color everything we do. Some feelings are wonderful. And sometimes worry, anger, loneliness, depression, irritation, overwhelm, fear, or other…
Listen for God's Voice

How to Listen for God’s Voice

We communicate with the people we care about. There’s no relationship without communication. It’s the same with you and God.…
Dishonest businessman

Christians Behaving Badly

When someone complains about Christians behaving badly a common response is to admonish them to look to Jesus rather than…
Couple praying

How to Pray With Your Spouse

Praying together with your spouse can be one of the most intimate, healing, and meaningful aspects of your relationship. You…
Mother and daughter doing pushups

Love is not Wimpy

Say love and chances are your immediate mental picture is soft, squishy, and colored in pastels. If you’re over 40…
Marriage is hard! Couple reading Scripture together.

Why Marriage Is So Hard

Sometime after the preacher pronounces you man and wife the unwelcome truth hits you; marriage is hard! That realization may…
Worshiping God

Who Is Your God?

Do you know who your God is? As Christian believers that may seem a rhetorical question. But if someone met…
Emotions

5 Ways to Befriend Your Feelings

Feelings are fickle. They’re real, but they’re unreliable. Emotions can be affected by everything happening both inside you and around…
Sunrise

HOPE for the In-Between Times

The in-between times can often be one of the most challenging. The Christmas celebrations are over. The New Year is…

What to do if you Feel Unloved

Unwanted. Rejected. Second class. Fifth wheel. Unimportant. Not good enough. Lonely. You feel unloved, and it hurts. You want to…

How to Know God as your Husband

There’s that Scripture you know should mean more to you: “Your Maker is your husband.” (Isaiah 54:5) But you’re just…
Women's Health and Shame

Women’s Health and Shame

Women’s health topics bring up such strong emotions – “for” and “against” and everything in-between. By listening to some people you’d…
Prayer

What to do After God Speaks

You had a problem, or something you desired deeply. You prayed about it – a lot. You asked others to pray for…

When You Feel Like a Failure

Let’s just admit it. We’re not perfect, and we know it. But sometimes the not-perfect-ness gets really old. Your head…

Helping the Least of These

There’s a long-running commercial on television in the US that tries to raise money for an organization helping abused and…

Why You Must Find Your WHY

Brianna sat down to chat yesterday. Her second child is nine months old, and she and her husband are planning…
Something growing

How to Grow Your Character

In some ways your character is like your closet, your car, or your bank account. Of course it’s much more…

When Good People Do Bad Things

Many in the popular media seem to relish exposing “skeletons in the closet” whenever an individual or a group that…
Reading the Bible

What To Do When You Don’t Feel Like Reading the Bible

There’s that little voice in your head that says, “Read the Bible!” Intellectually you accept the fact that as a Christian, reading the Bible would be a good thing to do. But you don’t feel like it.
Here are a few thoughts on what to do at those moments when you just don’t feel like reading the Bible.

Sapling

What Does Spiritual Maturity Look Like?

Just because you reach a certain birthday does not mean you are mature. And there is no area where that is more true than in matters of the heart and soul. But what does it mean to grow up spiritually?
You know people who are emotionally and spiritually children, even though they have lived many years.
Here’s what spiritual maturity would include:

Don’t Let These 4 Dangerous Spiritual Viruses Infect You

Sandra and Tom plan to never enter a church again. They feel bruised and beaten emotionally and spiritually at the hand of a group of Christians, and feel their only hope of survival is to separate from the Christian church as they see it.
Unhealthy spirituality can be toxic – to your mental well-being, to your physical health, and to your relationship with God. Don’t let one of these dangerous spiritual viruses infect your life:

Listening

Hearing God’s Voice

God speaks to us, and we can hear Him.
Is that really true? How can we know it’s Him? What does that look like?
I have learned some things about hearing His voice that make it much less confusing and more practical. Here are some characteristics of God’s voice:

I HOPE I’ve Changed!

Change can feel threatening, especially to those looking on. I’m sure you’ve heard some variety of the saying, “The only…

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