You Are More Powerful Than You Think

You Are More Powerful Than You Think

In your marriage, you are more powerful than you probably realize. There were very few things that surprised me when I got married. I was mature, I knew my husband well, and we took the time we needed to be sure.

But one thing DID surprise me, and at times still does. I’m still sometimes amazed at how powerful I am in my husband’s life.

It’s not because I have tried to change him, or that I’m especially “strong.” I don’t have any magic formula. And I don’t think I’m all that unique in this area.

I believe both husbands and wives often underestimate how much impact they have, or at least can have, on each other. You waste time and energy trying to force your spouse to change, when if you realize where your power really does lie, you’ll be much more successful than you ever imagined.

This kind of power can be used in both good and bad ways. You have the power to hurt and to heal, to build up or to tear down, to make your spouse dread coming home or anxiously look forward to seeing you again during every moment you’re apart.

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“It’s Friday. But Sunday’s Coming!”

CrossesIt’s Friday. But Sunday’s coming.

That line is not original with me, but it is so fitting for today.

It IS Friday, Good Friday.

On the first Good Friday, things didn’t look good at all. They looked downright dark and depressing, desperate and hopeless. Dreams were dashed. And those who were there could only say, “We had hoped . . . .”

We look back and call it Good Friday because we know the ending. We know

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Eat to Live: My Nutrition Plan

Eat to Live: My Nutrition Plan

At my husband Al’s last medical visit his doctor was impressed. He asked me, “What are you eating? What diet do you have him on?” Al’s blood pressure was down, he was losing weight, and generally doing well. His doctor knew what most of us do – that what we eat makes a big difference in how we feel and in so many areas of our health. I’m proud of my husband! But how did we do it?

I’ve written previously about my spiritual breakfast, and about what I do to keep myself moving physically. Here I talk about the healthy nutrition plan I follow.

I grew up a vegetarian, which meant I enjoyed a lot of fruits and vegetables. That was the good part. But there were other parts of my diet that weren’t so good. I ate a lot of pasta, white rice, bread, and pastries. I did leave my vegetarian ways later, but the other habits persisted.

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Get A Move On: My Love-Hate Exercise Program

Get A Move On: My Love-Hate Exercise Program

Girl with gym equipmentPhysical exercise is not something I’ve ever loved. In elementary school I was never good at P.E. (They still have that in school, right?) Sports can be wonderful, but it was never something I was involved in. I did my time when required all through school, but that was about it.

As an adult, this has probably been the area of physical health I’ve struggled with more than any other. And sometimes I’m even a little envious of those who seem to easily develop and maintain an exercise program. But then I remember that we all have priorities. And if I really believe my body needs to move, nobody is keeping me from it!

Periodically I fall off my exercise program completely. My job as a physician actually involves quite a lot of walking and moving around, so I’m generally rather physically active at work. But I know that’s not enough. So here are some things I’m doing:

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What I Do: Breakfast for the Soul

Quiet Time“Practice what you preach.” “Doctor, heal thyself.” Yes, I have to do the same things I tell everyone else to do. Sometimes it’s a challenge, and I do better in some areas than others.

I know sometimes people wonder how I do what I do, where I find the energy, time, or will to accomplish the things some of them wish they could do. So here is a window on some of my daily routine. And if you ask the people who know me best, especially my husband, you’ll find this is all true!

Over the next several days I’m going to share with you how I manage several of the areas in my own life, and I hope this perhaps gives you some encouragement in some area of your own.

Spiritual breakfast

Most mornings I spend the first part of my day

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